Hi Melissa

I'm 32, male, disease-free, trying to meet a woman to share my life with. I haven't had a ton of sexual partners and I'd like to keep it that way. I have passed up several opportunities to have sex even though my sexual drive has always been strong. I don't think I am paranoid but I do fear getting diseases and I am a bit of a health nut. Maybe I am paranoid - I passed up sex! Sometimes I think about those passed up opportunities rrrrrrr...

I'll likely go through a few relationships before I find someone to settle down with and possibly have kids with so I am concerned with diseases and for this reason I am very cautious as to who I will have sexual contact with. I do not assume a girl will tell me that she has a disease, and I realize that she may not even know that she is infected.

How do I keep myself from getting diseases in 2007? One disease could end my chance at any future relationship and even kids because I would not infect someone else and obviously do not want to give my kids diseases.

Do people nowadays demand a health report from a potential mate (to be done again six months later) before sex? Is postponing sex before marriage a turn off for women and what about people who plan on never marrying - do they set a time calendar for future sex?