This post by Owen, holds so may keys. Thought it has great relevance on this forum.

MadArt (ist)

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Emotional Tumors

“There are so many
occasions when we feel anger, disappointment, anxiety, rage, envy,
jealousy -- all the negative emotions. Those aren't just passing
thoughts. Most people "store" that
negative energy in their bodies, in
the form of emotional tumors. Those energy blockages are responsible for most
illnesses and degenerative conditions. People feel worthless,
and so they resort to junk food
and addictive mood-changers. If you
can eliminate those emotional tumors, bodies quickly find a way
to heal themselves.”
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Forgiving others is absolutely
essential if you want to attain
radiant physical, emotional, and
spiritual health.

And you have to forgive yourself,
too. They're both variations on the
same theme.

First yourself: Every human being
has done or said things that they
regret. Instead of feeling guilt,
tell yourself -- and say it aloud --
"The [person] I am today would not
have said or done that to you,
(name of person). I can't go back
and change what I did or said. But
if we met in similar circumstances
today, I would not hurt you."

Say that, as many times as you need
to, and then FORGET IT! No more guilt. Feeling bad about past
actions only hurts you. The best
any of us can say is that the person
I am TODAY, a much saner, happier
person, would have done things differently.

Regarding other people who have hurt
you: Feeling anger for injuries done to
you, no matter how horrific, only
hurts you. Your anger doesn't hurt
the perpetrators. You need to tell
yourself that if the man or woman
who hurt you grievously, had been
more spiritually evolved, they never
would have hurt you. They were
ignorant, caught up in their own
negative soap-opera, and so they
struck out at you. You need to say -- and mean [it], -- "I forgive you
for what you did to me." The words
may stick in your craw when you say
them the first time. Trust me. After
some weeks or months, you will say
that and mean it. Begin by pretending, and see what happens.