I have many reasons for requesting this support forum for abused wives. Partly because, before I was born, my mother was physically abused by my father. To be frank, she was beaten into unconsciousness while she was still pregnant with me inside her belly (that could be the reason for my strange sense of humor on the Joke Forum). I am grateful that she took the next train out of the state and I survived the pregnancy, being born a few months later.

Although my mother and father never got back together, I am glad to know that God completely turned my father's life around for the better. The last time my wife and I went to visit him, he asked me to forgive him, while he was in the hospital. I told him that all is forgiven and we talked, he died two months later.

I'm not going to pretend that I know everything about an abusive relationship, I'll only try to give what I have learned from close friends who experienced physical abuse.

There are many things that can contribute to a partner being abusive. One is because it’s what they experienced when they was a child or because they saw their father beating their mother, they considered it as normal while they grew up.

The affect that it can have on the female can make her feel as though she is a common animal unable to survive without her husband or not deserving a better life. I have actually had people tell me that’s how they felt while going through the abuse.

I feel that if you are living the life of a beaten wife, you don’t have to. There are many help organizations that will help you get out of that dangerous life and offer a better future for you and your children. But you will have to take that step forward, I believe that the future of your children are well worth it.