Hi Hi! :)

Yep, it is sad, but often when we make positive changes in our lives, some relationships become no longer supportive or appropriate for our new selves. We vibrate differently so the laws of like attracting like no longer work. If that is indeed what is happening with you and he, then leaving will be a strong affirmation that you accept this new growth and are ready for someone more appropriate to come into your life. When one door closes another one opens! :) But let's see what the numbers say...

My DOB is 12/04/1980= 3-4-9 = 16/7
challenges: 1/5/6/4

his is 04/13/1982 = 4-4-2 = 29/11
challenges: 0/2/2/2

Okay, you're much more beneficial to him than he is to you (the 7 and 11 vibe). You are both 4 day people and that's not good for long-term. It's great for first meetings, good friendships, but committed relationship wise there's a lot of doubt. You end up accentuating your natural cynicism, doubting Thomas type vibe. Too much "stick in the mud" type energy - routine routine routine. And he will start to interpret the constructive things that you do for yourself as criticism against him and take it personally.