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I was recently in a little disagreement with my girlfriend of over a year. While there were no voices raised, I think we both still feel hurt over the whole thing.

The issue started when I told her by email that I really thought she should be a little more open with complimenting me and kissing me more, since I rarely, if ever, received either of those from her. I understood beforehand that she was extremely shy. She emailed back saying I shouldn't be telling her how to act around me, and I was hurt by that... so I go to her house, and we talked about the emails. Basically she said I was expecting too much of her, and that anything she doesn't say to me, I should feel is a "good" thing about me, because if I do something wrong, she'll tell me about it. Considering she has never really said bad things to me all this time, I was happy...

...but we shifted topics before I could officially "conclude" the little disagreement, so I'm deciding to do this by email... the only problem is, it sounds kind of weird, and wanted your feedback:

" I'll have to appologize again for trying to change the way you act. I was not intentionally trying to do that, but did not know how awkward it made you feel, mostly because it wouldn't make me feel awkward to receive it, especially after we've seen eachother for this long. Either that, or I guess I was trying to change you, but thought you would change to make me feel better, but I was being selfish. As you said, if it was on topic, you would compliment me, and if we're not on topic, I should assume you like what I'm doing (although you should have notified me about that early on; then I wouldn't be wondering all this time if there were things you did really liked about me ;-) ) I am the type of guy who likes feedback. I hate assuming things because when I assume, they sometimes turn out wrong, and I like direct feedback. But I will change that part of me for you, even though you will not change for me.... I will value each kiss you give me a lot more considering how much guts it takes you to give them. So am I officially forgiven? :-) I hope this whole thing does not do anything to the love we have."