herb-gal
WELL...
And this is not to try to discredit you in any way at all...because I think some is true.
Here's my take on your list based on my relationship.
1. We've been together for over a year, tossed the marriage idea around loosely...love eachother VERY much...crazy about eachother. And he doesn't like to do it to me.
2. I've tol dhim what feels good when he does do it. After he's refused at times, and said that he didn't even know how I liked it, I offered to guide him...still nothing that time.
3. He damn well better know how much I like it, I nearly beg for it because I DO need warming up even though I want sex ALL the time and he doesn't. And he comes faster than me usually...probably because he gets oral and I don't and he thinks I do it better than anyone he's ever encountered for various reasons...so he's obviously having a good time when I'm just worried about whether I'm going to come or not.
I've discovered...I think the only time he'll do it unless I get extremely lucky is if I do it to him at the same time...69 position. I have no idea what the logic is behind that but I know that neither of us get to focus on eachother as much so it doesn't feel as good.
When he does do it, even if I have to exaggerate it a bit, I come REALLY fast so we can work on a second one for me or just his. That should be explanation enough for him on how "badlye" I desire it since when he doesn't do it, chances of me having an orgasm are slim.
With that said, I think he prefers to not have sex as often because he's afraid he's not going to satisfy me.
_Even more reason for him to do it!
I can say the sexiest, dirtiest things to him and it wouldn't change his perspective on giving a female oral sex. He just "doesn't like it"
I just try to deal with it. I touch myself more than he touches me I think haha