Yes, I do know what you're talking about. We do love each other and are willing to work things out, it's two-sided, which means we both have to do that terrible word.....CHANGE.

You're very welcome for the encouragement. If I can help in any other way, let me know. There's always a reason for every thing. There's a reason your wife is acting this way, you just need to coax it out of her.

Hey M,
I was thinking, we have read some books that have helped us. If you're interested, they are:

"The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman
"His Needs Her Needs" by Willard Harley

Blessings to both of you

It always goes both ways. A relationship is a two sided street.

A woman should never use sex as a tool or mistreat her man. Neither should a man use that as an excuse to go get sex elsewhere.

Just like a woman can't blame anyone but herself when it comes to giving sex to her husband a husband can't blame the woman for his infidelity.

Sex is a gift, and should always be given freely. If there seems to be problems communicate! Find out what the problem is before you make matters worse by going and getting sex somewhere else.

If you love your wife you should have no problem doing that, and if she loves you she should have no problem opening up and communicating with you and understanding your needs.

Know why women typically have their sexual peek in their 40's?
BECAUSE THE KIDS ARE GONE! At least 15 years ago was the case. Plenty of women will not be hitting that peek till 50 or 60.

If you are a man that has time during ANY part of the day to watch 2 hours of T.V.-- or has a job that can allow for a bit of time to daydream/fantasize-- of course you will be the one with extra libido! I many sound like your own wife here, but if you want ADVICE, this is mine:

Do not tell me that you DO things all day unless you ALSO help to give an occassional BATH for your kid, or COOK an occassional dinner OR Occassionally Vacuum the CHIPS off the floor that YOU put there. OR TELL your wife "Honey, I think you deserve a day to yourself, why don't I take the kids today."...
I do not want ROMANCE! I REPEAT, I do not want ROMANCE! CLEAN up after DINNER and I might want to be DONE tonight! Maybe even a blow job if you can turn your head away from the TV when I'm needing your attention. Perhaps you could go Grocery shopping with me to pick up half of the list, or TURN YOUR CLOTHES right side out before putting them in the laundry like I've asked a GAZILLION times.

I GET up in the morning, EXERCISE.. FEED my Kids, Homeschool 3, Prepare for tomorrows lessons, Grocery shop, Shuttle to Soccer, or whatever sport at the time, COOK lunches and DINNERS, CLean up, Bathe kids, Daily Walk the Dog, Weekly cut the Grass, Maybe 1 hour on-line, and In bed by 11:00--at times a little later.
Working a 9-5 or 8-6 job doesn't cut it with me! Unless you are a man that comes home from work to do some extra "chores" as well. I work all damn day and into the night-- even thru the mornings when the kids are sick, so don't EVEN compare me to you unless you really are a "Help-Mate".
Perhaps you should get a hobby-- one that will keep your mind OFF of SEX. Read, Quilt or whatever... Quit checking out other women and fantasizing YOUR the one RUINING your OWN chances of getting any with your wife. Sit down with her and have a heart to heart-- ask her what is ONE thing you can do for her to improve their marriage-- She'll probably say Compliment me more, or Help me more, or Understand me more (why she's so DAMN TIRED), or Try not to BLAME me so much, or try to FIX things that you are CLUELESS about the CAUSE.

If she's an all around LAZY do NOTHING wife who will never change, then Leave Her.


Am I mad, Yes sorry I am.