I agree with 2388, I don't even care about my first (even though I remember it vaguely). I am emotionally connected to the present guy, and I still remeber fondly the first time we did it.

I had an experience with a guy I wasn't really interested in about 2 years ago. It was the best S I ever had in my life. He was so talented. But I wasn't into him at all; I didn't want to date him. So we ended up as friends, never had S again and I am able to see him and talk to him without any emotions. My present BF is a lousy lover, but I have an incredible deep emotional connection with him. Funny, huh?

I can separate S and love very well. But I need some attraction to the guy to be able to perform. But it doesn't have to be love or strong affection.