our big brother (bb) 
eshkaljka
19 y
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on Jan 24, 2004 my 25 yr old big brother was killed. i want to know what he's doing, how i know he's with me, and what can i tell my little brother to help him, and to help him know when our brother is with him too. they were best friends and this is killing him. i want to help my little brother, what can i do. i notice little things in my life that let me know when he's around, but i'm not sure that robby has caught on to what is going on in his - the signs... please help... thank you so much... and i will follow your advice that you've given others as far as how to communicate with him..
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on Jan 24, 2004 my 25 yr old big brother was killed. i want to know what he's doing, how i know he's with me, and what can i tell my little brother to help him, and to help him know when our brother is with him too. they were best friends and this is killing him. i want to help my little brother, what can i do. i already notice little things in my life that let me know when he's around, but i'm not sure that robby has caught on to what is going on in his - the signs... please help... thank you so much...
- Re: our big brother (bb) Librastar70
19 y
1,158
This is a reply to # 500,692Hi,
I'm sorry for your loss. It must have been very difficult. You are so sweet to want to help your little brother. My question is how old is Robby? The last thing I want to do is to suggest something and have it scare the pants off of him.
How about you? How are you dealing with it? Are you getting through it? I'm asking because, I sense that you are about 16 or so and you have focused on Robby's well being. Don't forget about your own grieving and the changes it has, had in your life.
I sense that your brother's death was very sudden, an accident, probably a car accident.
He's sense is very strong to me, (like he's banging on the door inside my head, "Let me in!" So, I'm going to let him in and whatever is typed in the next paraghraph is him speaking to you. BY THE WAY, since I started this forum this is the first time this has happened, he must really want you to know something.
***** I love you and miss you so much, but I am okay. What happened was stupid. It was my own fault for not using better judgement. I can see how much I hurt everyone and I am so sorry. Tell Robby (Robber) that I'm alright and I'm sorry. I am always around, even though he can't see me. The plans we had, he should follow through with, I'll be there.
Is your name Cindy? Or was he close to someone named Cindy? I heard that name as an echo a few times??
I sincerly, hope that I have not mixed his message with another's on the board. I don't believe so.
PLEASE let me know if this aplies to you.
God Bless you and you have the right to grieve, you don't have to be so strong, you have encounter a great loss too.
Libra
- Re: our big brother (bb) eshkaljka
19 y
1,451
This is a reply to # 500,694Librastar70,
To answer your post...
I'm 24 and Robby is 22. I don't think that anything you would suggest to help Robby would scare him.
I am doing good as far as all of this goes, I'm far more concerned about my brother. Thank you for your concern.
Keith's death was very sudden, he was killed in Iraq by a roadside bomb.
What you wrote about him coming accross so strong sounds like it could have been him. He had a very powerful presense.. I can't describe it really, it was just very powerful and very strong.
This is the message you said you got from him:
"I love you and miss you so much, but I am okay. What happened was stupid. It was my own fault for not using better judgement. I can see how much I hurt everyone and I am so sorry. Tell Robby (Robber) that I'm alright and I'm sorry. I am always around, even though he can't see me. The plans we had, he should follow through with, I'll be there."
First thank you for posting this... I'm sorry though because I don't really understand it! Maybe it was intended for another poster? I say this because I can't figure out how he could have used better judgement. He was the gunner in the vehicle, he wasn't driving. The only thing I could think of is that maybe he saw the insurgent who was going to set the bomb off and he didn't shoot him first. I know that sounds crazy maybe, but I don't understand how it could have been his fault. And I don't understand why he'd be sorry for dying. No one blames him or feels like he needs to be the one who's sorry.
Thank you for the words to tell Robby. I will keep your message, please let me know if you get anything else! Thank you so much!
PS My name is Sarah... I don't know who Cindy would be... Could it have been Lindsey?
- Re: our big brother (bb) Librastar70
19 y
1,705
This is a reply to # 500,710Hi Sarah,
I don't believe this message was intended for another poster.
Robby, just has to keep the faith that all is well in his brother's "world" and that someday, he will find the answers that his soul is searching for.
Cindy...Lindsey, Could be? Perhaps part of the message is meant for this Lindsey, especially if it is a mother, wife, daughter, girlfriend someone of great signifiance in his life.
When he died (in such a sad, useless way) only he knows what happened and what went through his mind. You have to take what he said and try and make sense out of it. You could be right about him not shooting first. But, his message was very strong and he knew what it was he saying. I guess you could relate, his manner of death to a "car accident" type, even though he wasn't driving.
If anything else surfaces, I'll be in touch. But, there is NO doubt that message was from him and you will if you haven't already make sense out it.
God Bless him for serving his country. I'm so sorry he is one of the thousand we have lost.
Prayers are with you, I know you are proud of him.
God Bless,
Libra
- Re: our big brother (bb) eshkaljka
19 y
1,203
This is a reply to # 500,711Libra,
Thank you so much for your response!
This is what you wrote about Robby:
"Robby, just has to keep the faith that all is well in his brother's "world" and that someday, he will find the answers that his soul is searching for."
I had to point that out because Keith used to say "keep the faith".
I will take what he said to you and try to make sense out of it.
Thank you for your condolances, and thank you again so much for reading and answering my posts! You're wonderful, thank you!
Sarah - Keeping the faith :)
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