Sounds like the girl got her way of thinking from the mom. If you ever have problems with females hounding you, just tell them to their face that you don't like them. You need to 100% honest when you meet a female, as you relate with her, and/or decide not to. Don't think for a moment that a chick can "change", and don't allow the female to convince you (herself) that she can/would for you, or for any reason. People are not in a rut of their doing by accident, decisions made by themselves put themselves there. If any man or woman wants to or has the will to change for you, then let them do so on their own time. Let them develop into what they will, as they will. It's up to themselves to be as they are, not others. Intervention as a husband, b-friend, lover, at times will lead to very rough times. Once a person has a mind set of being what they are, how they treat people, and themselves,,,,only real hard placed knocks may change them. Somewhere out there will be a match for her, (him), don't sweat it....go on and find yourself a cutie, with a sparkling personality that you can forever love.