Give couples councelling a try. You love him and that's good, but you probably feel betrayed and hurt - and that's what needs to be resolved. If you don't feel that you can trust him, you are going to have a hard time being intimate with him - no matter how hard he tries.

Also, try a personal time out. A ME vacation, some space and time for you only to go and think things through. Do I want to persue this? Or do I really just want out?

You are going to need to answer these qusetions in order for councelling to be effective.

I had trust issues with my spouse over different issues, and it eventualy roke down the sexual relationship. With time and councelling, we are working through our issues. It will take time.

Chicklet
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Go out there and date. Don't cheat but go out there and date. Get a spy cam on him and if you find him cheating leave him for at least a year and date. No sex with guys at least but date. The vibrating bullet is really good.