I don't believe you should contact him. But I know for sure that you shouldn't worry about how he is living his life while you are apart. It sounds like you have been problems for some time. Stand back and try to be objective. Some people thrive on hate, but I don't so I can't make suggestions from this angle so I will give them from another. Perhaps you can agree that the relationship wasn't working, and you could be concerned for his welfare. But, you shouldn't be hurt if he is looking elsewhere for happiness. Yes, you may have a lot of history together, I understand why you may want to hold onto that.

But, vicious cycles are created by re-creating the same relationship over and over. If you are unhappy with certain aspects of the relationship that you have shared, why keep re-creating it? Maybe it would be healthier for you both to move on. That doesn't mean that you need to be unconcerned about the other person; that person is obviously important to you. However, how about being interested in happiness for both of you, rather than upset that he may be happy without you. You could, afterall, find a relationship with somebody other than him, and be much happier yourself.

As I always say, you have to make the decision yourself. But, maybe this will help you come to the decision.

Wow...it's been over 2 weeks? congrats and i'm proud of you. you know...it's very normal to be thinking of what he's doing, where he is, if he's seeing anybody. being able to control those feelings is a different story. you WILL NOT get over him if you try to talk to him again. i know you probably had picked up the phone several times, and started dialing his #'s and hung up or tried to stop by his place to see if he's home or who's at his house. i don't blame you if you're doing those, but i will advise you to stop doing it though. everyone wants to be with the one that they love, especially we, girls, want to be with and marry our first love, but what you gotta think is "is it worth it?" he never really respected you from what you've been saying, he was with you because of it is so convinent. you got to have some respect for yourself. it takes a lot of strength and courage to do what you're doing right now because you know that even if you get back with him, there is no guarantee future. let's say you get back with him, and you end up marrying him, and i can guarantee you that you guys will get a divorce. i'm sure you know that yourself too. there is no happy future for you guys.
of course we want to think that our guys are sad over the break up, and feel lonely, and depressed. from what you mentioned about him, i don't think he's that type who will be sad or lonely. i know it sounds harsh of me to say this, but it's true. he won't come to his senses anytime soon like you're expecting. but he will one day. remember "what goes around comes around" you treated him good, you did everything you could, you didn't cheat on him or lie to him when you guys were together. He is the one who did. it will come back to him one day sweetite. trust me. only then will he realize how good you were to him, and how much of a loser of him to lose you, and how much he regrets of letting you go. for the time being, don't try to talk to him again, it's just gonna add more pain, and don't just let 2 1/2 weeks go down the drain.
i know it's very hard to go through what you're doing through, especially because he's your first love, but KEEP trying and if you ever need something, just let us know. goodluck with school and i hope this helps.
honey