Hi there karenk...thank you for the words of reassurance by the way, that the other gardiners might catch on . I still haven't been out there yet..but something is stirring... the guy has only just gone and done what in our tenancy agreement clearly says is not permitted. It can be heard each morning! The purchase of a cockrel alongwith hens shut inside a plastic shed..the neighbourhood has the joy of being woken up before the sun rises while he continues snoozing elsewhere.

From what i have read it's the very trait and thinking they are above the law that will possibly be his downfall. His lack of respect for simple rules..isn't clever but stupid. My god i'm beginning to feel sorry for him is there no stopping compassion!!!!I will still be relieved to see the back of him though!

I agree that just even being innert doesn't guarantee me safety...so strategies are useless..but feel the need to air this taboo subject and bring it into the light and the open in a news letter perhaps at some point. what i found so intriguing and would like to know more about is in your post the remark of fellow narcs and enablers. it's dawning on me now that yes..come to think of it..thanks for bringing that to my attention... By the way anyone reading this who are involved more intimately with a male/female remotely like this guy...my heart really goes out to you..living in fear is not a life..!!you have courage..you have it somewhere..search in the part down and behind the cushion of the sofa..it's there! And change your life for the better!!