I am ashamed to say that I have an immediate family member who has been impersonating a decorated combat veteran. This individual enlisted in the US Army in 2001 and received a "medical" discharge in 2003. He lived in my home for 6 weeks after his discharge and abandoned his belongings in my home after he tried to re-enlist using forged and bogus military documentation. The Recruiter called me to tell me that he had changed the eligibility codes on his Dd214 so that he would appear eligible for re-enlistment, and had been caught. He left my home, the same day.
A week after he had left my home and his belongings, I was packing his belongings up to place into a storage facility (that I paid for 3 months, in advance) for him to collect. As I was packing up his belongings, I came across physical evidence that made my blood run cold - military stamps, date stamps, ink pads, goldtone certificate seals, scanned military documents belonging to other soldiers, forged signatures (practiced, over and over), failed "prototype" service awards, and handwritten instructions on how to make service award certificates appear official ("must be smaller than date," "no shadow," "must say Schofield Barracks," etc.) He had also left behind his entire military medical records folder which was mainly filled with tens of dozens of pages of psychiatric notes. He was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, Cluster Traits B (?), and had been documented to phsyically violent. Copies of these records were placed on file with our State Trooper's Barracks after the family member had threatened to kill us.
Since 2003, this person has been passing himself off as a decorated combat veteran (Purple Heart, etcl) using these (and/OR other) forged documents to secure grants, veteran's benefits, etc. I contacted the Army Recruitment Center and asked about this person's military record, providing his SSN, and my worst fears were confirmed: this family member had never even been processed and had, instead, spent his entire enlistment at WRAMC for psychiatric treatment.
Without going into even more detail, this family member attempted to kill his then-pregnant ex-wife, and is a full-blown abusive sociopath. Does anyone feel that reporting such a heinous fraud would be appropriate? If so, how would one go about making such a report, and to whom? This has weighed heavily on my heart since 2003, and I feel that this person's actions are immoral, unethical, and utterly despotic, but I love this person and wish for them to take responsibility for what they did (and, continue to do). Of course, I don't want this person imprisoned or harmed, but I honestly believe that this person (and, anyone else who engages in this activity) should be stopped if he cannot stop himself. I believe that this person will continue their fraud and stop at nothing to take whatever he wants using whatever means he can, and whatever relation he is to me won't change the fact that he's committed a crime.
For those who have survived serving their Nation, for those whose lives will never be the same, and for those made the supreme sacrifice with their lives, I beg for their forgiveness for having a family member who would perpetrate such a crime.
Thank you for your response. The individual doesn't have a psychiatric condition, as I mentioned in the OP - he has a personality disorder, and there is a vast difference between the two. Personality disorders are not an organic condition and can only be "managed" or "treated" by the individual, themselves, through life-altering changes in behavioral choices. Those with a personality disorder must be willing to recognize the damage that they have inflicted, and be willing to make personal changes. Schizophrenia is a chemical imbalance that can be diagnosed and measured in severity via a battery of physiological testing, and psychiatric exams. Personality disorders cannot be measured or proven by any series of tests or psychiatric exams.
The individual that I'm speaking about has applied for, and accepted, taxpayer-funded grants, disability for self-inflicted injuries (so that he wouldn't be sent to combat), and all of the other "perks" that are duly accorded to bona fide decorated veterans. What he is choosing to do is to live a very intricate lie that he has generated through his own actions.
Again, thank you for your response.
What medication or treatment would create a conscience in a person who doesn't have one? Either they have one, or they don't, and the person in question doesn't.
I sincerely had not intended my personal crisis to turn into a psychiatric/psychological debate. I'm in tremendous emotional turmoil over this, and I'm too close to the situation to take (or, not to take) a rational action to not only hope to stop this from continuing, but to help this individual stand accountable for his choices.. Once again, thanks for your posts.
tell him to reenlist - there are lots of rag heads to kill - he will be happy and we will be safe
This person's ex-wife knew about his forgeries. The evidence has been examined by individuals who are familiar with this type of thing.
I appreciate the strong encouragement - I do feel as if I've committed the crime because I know about it, have the original physical evidence to prove it, and I know that people are being harmed by his activities that have never even met him. His activities are defrauding taxpayers and objectifying the brave men and women who have served courageously.
Thanks, again, for the encouragement. This has been a horribly difficult issue for me.
He's also getting special loans, grants, and all of the other perks that a decorated combat vet deserves by passing off his fabricated and forged "documentation." I have an original forgery that he made up that named him as a recipient of the Bronze Star for heroism during a firefight in Tikrit. He never even left WRAMC in 3 years.
Well, he was discharged on a medical in 2007 and has been doing this since then. I don't know if anyone has heard of the "Stolen Valor" legislation that addresses this type of cime. At any rate - now that he's a civilian, whom would I contact? I really don't like the idea of doing this, but what he's doing is criminal. The people that he's harming are many. And, somewhere, this has to end. UGH. What the heck is WRONG with people? My brother who's a retired Naval Officer and served in Viet Nam told me that this type of thing has been going on forever. UGH, again.
Thanks for your encouragement.