EDITED - October 4th to add more and to add some links
While I understand your frustration, I hope that you will reconsider your stance.
Diabetes has many causes, it is genetic and also according to chapter two (diabetic lifestyle habits and risk factor) in Gabriel Cousens book "there is a cure for diabetes" has these other factors contributing to it.
some of these are as follows:
--inactivity
--television watching is directly correlated to diabetes (due to inactivity)
--overweight and obesity especially abdominal fat
--processed, cooked, pasteurized and irradiated foods
--high glycemic diet and insulin index
--low fiber diet
--high animal fats and meat eating
---environmental toxicity in the foods
--dairy consumption
--high blood cholesterol
--high stress lifestyle and hypertension
--candida
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Depression (3 4 times higher in diabetes and they had it before they got diabetes not after)
--syndrome x (symptoms are inability to lose weight, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, high triglycerides, low hdl cholesterol, and coronary heart disease and abdominal fat is often the first outward sign of syndrome x)
--toxicity of heavy metals and drinking water
--cadmium (a widespread heavy metal that is more prevalent now than ever in our air, water and soil
--mercury
--arsenic
--lead
--fluoride
--vaccinations are correlated with juvenile diabetes as is milk consumption
--gestational diabetes and large birth-weight babies
-Alzheimer and cancer associated
Source(s): book --there is a cure for diabetes by Gabriel Cousens
Although many of these are lifestyle habits, some are not and often people who do not have a genetic predisposition to it, do not get it regardless of how bad their lifestyle is. I remember my allopathic doctor doing a paper on cadmium and its prevalence in the environment and link to diabetes and other illnesses. Things like this are not under a person's control.
Type 2 diabetes is definitely genetic..I myself have 3 relatives with it.
It is an awful illness that can lead to blindness, loss of limbs, dialysis, numbness, loss of IQ and confusion, loss of hearing, heart attack and strokes (75% of diabetes die from one of these)and rather rapid damage to every part of one's body. It is a scary illness. Imagine if you were faced with these potentials in your future and had to walk in her shoes. We all make mistakes but we hope our loved ones understand and forgive us for our human frailties.
Even if you are frustrated with her lifestyle and feel she is responsible for her illness, some compassion is in order anyhow. If she cannot count on her brother to care about her plight, who can she count on? We are called to love and to do unto others.
Often sleep disorders are linked to diabetes and things like that can cause the illness rather than be the cause of it. I know I have three sleep disorders and everything I have is linked with them my research has found. One of these is delayed sleep phase syndrome which it sounds like your sister might have (also known as night owls). This is a disruption of circadian rhythms and extremely hard to fix.
The rate of diabetes is 4 times higher in depressed people and come often before the diabetes (not after as one might suspect although the illness and its associated conditions certainly may exacerbate the depression).
She may feel painting is her only escape from a life of difficulty. How about encouraging her to only paint outside and to use other and only safe drawing materials during cold months indoors rather than not paint at all.
Encourage her to and show her how to make safe perfumes and products using essential oils. Ones I like are neroli, anise, lemon, rose, lime, jasmine, almond, and several others. Just add a little water to them as a spritzer or to preserve as a cologne, add vodka. Spritz that one on too. Get her interested in the healing properties of these oils (be sure they are real essential oils and not synthetics..get them at health food stores or online-- aura cacia is such a brand).
http://www.auracacia.com/auracacia/acproducts/acessoils.html
A search online can show how to make extremely safe laundry soap using borax and washing soda that costs just one or two cents a load that a variety of different smells using essential oils can be added to. Make a batch with
her. It last many months.
Here is how to make it and save lots of money and have a safe soap.
http://www.thefamilyhomestead.com/laundrysoap.htm
Get her drinking parsley root and dandelion leaf teas and juices to help with that water retention. here is more on those teas/tinctures
//www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1224275#i
parsley root
//www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1224281
dandelion
Also have her go to the pool and stand up to here neck for an hour splashing around..see this post on the benefits of this for kidney and high blood pressure and water retention balance. I believe it works on the osmosis factor.
here is more on that
//www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1224292#i
Offer to go to the pool with her so things can be on a more enjoyable level with her and you know you are helping her while spending quality time with her. It might also get her exercising in a way that is not as hard on the joints. Maybe some water aerobics.
Every time she does something good, praise her and reward her in some way (awards can take the form of activities, material objects, time spent with her, playing together, going somewhere or something you know she wants).
As a former elementary teacher studying educational psychology, teachers are taught to ignore bad behavior, praise someone else doing what you hope she will do, and catching them being good as this works far better than punishment and criticism.
Also use expectant praise (even if she is not doing it act as though you are sure she can and wants to..and this encourages them to actually do it..hard to explain).
Make up a list of goals and a chart and she puts a sticker or something every time she meets a goal on the chart or puts a bean in a jar or something. So many per day or week or in total and she gets the reward. This works for adults the same as kids as long as the reward is something she really wants.
Take a caring rather than judgmental attitude and model good behavior and you may get further. Noone likes being criticized or picking up bad vibes even if they are justifiable.
Somehow she might feel she is not enough and ostracizing and being "mean" will only make that worst. Kill her with kindness as who knows how long she has and some things are even more important than being well. Being loved AND KNOWING IT are one of these. Many love their relatives but the person does not get that message.
Talk to her in "I" messages. example--I feel really sad seeing you going blind and not walking and I want you to care enough about me by caring about yourself enough to listen to what I have to say and really try for me and for you with an open heart and mind.
Avoid "you" messages that are tinged with direct or indirect criticism.
Some people are as addicts and harm themselves due to feeling not enough. You must not add to that, but try to get her to love herself enough to try to reverse her blindness and diabetes. It has been done.
Some ideas
1. Use
Richard Schulze 's incurables program (email me for the links to his videos and manual)..it has cured diabetes.
2. Use blood
Sugar herbs and nutrients.
http://www.holisticonline.com/Remedies/Diabetes/diabetes_home.htm
http://www.holisticonline.com/Remedies/Diabetes/diabetes_herbs.htm
3. Have seen read the testimonies at hacres.com on diabetes and other things she has so she can see that others have not only controlled diabetes but completely gotten rid of it.
found here
http://www.hacres.com/testimonies/testimonies.asp?strterm1=diabetes
4. Have her the following books:
eat to live
http://www.amazon.com/Eat-Live-Revolutionary-Formula-Sustained/dp/0316735507/...
there is a cure for diabetes
http://www.amazon.com/There-Cure-Diabetes-21-Day-Program/dp/1556436912/ref=sr...
the hallelujah diet
http://cgi.ebay.com/NEW-The-Hallelujah-Diet-Malkmus-George-Shockey_W0QQitemZ3...
5 Have her watch this video series on a trucker who reversed his diabetes in three days using the principle in the book cure for diabetes
it is linked here. watch it ..it is inspiring and hopeful..he also cured himself of colon cancer..
//www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1486145#i
She must be made to understand that there are no incurable illnesses and this can be reversed but only if she believes it and does the work which does involve the difficult way of changing her behavior and lifestyle.
I am sorry that this misfortune has come upon your sister whether it is self or other caused and for how frustrating it is for you to watch her decline. It must really hurt.
Do go to sources outside her to vent but around her try these other suggestions.
Behavioral conditioning as mentioned in the chart, praising good and ignoring bad behavior has worked on the most stubborn cases. Kids severely emotionally disturbed have even been able to sit quietly and do their work and people have changed all kinds of bad behaviors. It does work a lot so give these things a try. And email me for the links to the manual/videos...go over there and make your sister watch them with you and also listen to Schulze's tape get well (email me for link)
links to helping blindness and gangrene
//www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1406515#i
blindness
//www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1406511#i
gangrene
also see this thread
//www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1386779#i
//www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1234564#i
These 34 steps should be read by all diabetics as much of the info in them applies to them and over 50% of people on dialysis are diabetic.
See this whole thread and the 34 step thread found linked there and in the kidney dialysis section. It is very comprehensive.
or that one is also found here
//www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=1224263#i
Best of luck and I hope this was helpful to you and hopefully, you can get your sister turned on to how to heal herself.
For some the breaking point that makes one change their lifestyle comes later than for others. We all do have a breaking point and some use that fear etc to change and reverse their course when desperate enough and many have succeeded and later looked back on their disease with gratitude that it motivated them enough to build a healthy life where they are healthier than before they got their disease and the disease was the impetus to a better life down the road
I was recently diagnosed with diabetes and though I had a very good whole foods diet, I thought about all those things this illness could cause and how that would impact my life being blind and stuff and I started changing.
I started walking every day though I do not like exercising. I never get less than 6 days a week usually 7.
I became a vegan or strict vegetarian though I loved my organic meat, eggs, and cheese.
I gave up junk foods, fast foods, and buffets and I drastically cut honey and natural sweeteners except for stevia and I started curtailing my consumption of grains and fruits avoiding those high on the glycemic index scale. I plan on doing the incurables program and a 45 day juice fast this month.
I am working towards more whole raw food currently being at 50-85%.
Is it hard..at first but it gets to be a habit and it is a helluva lot better than losing my IQ or going blind or legless. It seems your sister has a lower bottom than some but you never know how close that bottom which might change her might be and I hope you can convey to her that contrary to what doctors say, diabetes is curable.
A raw food diet is one of the paths to it and the incurables program with lots of raw garlic and diluted juices (more green than fruit) is another pathway.
Even if you can't help her, by educating yourself you can help others suffering form all kinds of illness for these same two paths cured all kinds of things.
Good luck. You might be your sister's only link to the info that could save her life and reverse her blindness and walking problems, so be persistent and with resolve, do not give up no matter how much she frustrates you. God will reward your efforts and you will gain even more self esteem in doing the right thing and not giving up on her.
My mom never listened though I tried 10 years and the few things she tried I recommended always worked and the doctor's stuff often messed her up.. It was in vain and she is dead now, but I do not regret my years of trying and I trust neither will you in the long run.
Even the great herbalist Dr John R Christopher (Schulze's teacher who originated the incurables program) and cured tons of thousands from every incurable illness, his own family never believed...not till her death bad when he was told to rush over to see his sister for the last time as doctors said she would be dead by morning did his brother in law say and "ray can you bring some herbs?" and he did and she did not die but even helped cook the next morning (source of this story was in his videotapes).
You cannot make her do it, you can only try and show her the way and love her.