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Hi, I found a very helpful website with a wonderful program and I will copy another post to make it easier for me. I am short of time, but this is helping me soo much. Also a couple who treated themselves (the wife treated her husband).
Now my copy of another post:
Hi Rooth, thanks for answering my letter. You are right, of course about the 2 sides. I am the Bipolar part. They both complement each other rather nicely. NPD and BPD.
My husband likes the word: "Manic - depressive" better because he finds it closer to the truth.
There is much in other people who can "freak you out" if you are not more grounded in yourself.
I have just started to work with the help of a wonderful couple who went through their abusive relationship. They have a really nice program with daily e-mails and e-books and I get very very helpful practical information.
I see more clearly now how he uses my shaky emotional state to get away with his behaviour. I can see now in the minute he intimidates me and stand my ground. The nice thing about this mentioned couple is: she saw his terrible problems and still was so sure of her love for him. Therefore she found the cure, because leaving was no option for her.
Anyway, I am not with my husband because I can't be alone or have no support system. We share a lot. We are deeply connected. We can talk endlessly about everything and anything. I never WANTED to leave him, I only thought I HAD to leave him to get out of a sick relationship and help him and myself by leaving.
Now I have found a way to cure practically both of us by changing my own way of being. I am really ready to do everything what is needed with the help of these books. I have a deep wish for change: YES I CAN and I will do it.
Thank you so much for answering me. It is great to get some honest feed-back. Much Aloha and Mahalo!!!!