I am increasingly seeing sex as a primitive urge that gets in the way of a lot of what life is about and I don't want a distraction to take up so much time in my day, a distraction that results in no "conclusion" and misdirected energy 99.999% of the time. I have a healthy desire for sex but I don't see it as healthy living because I have lived long enough to see how much time and energy I have spent my whole life lusting after people who I never even touched and just thinking about sex in general. I do not think I am really different from other people. Sex drives marketing, drives people, but it is mostly a dead end. I don't want to totally eliminate sex from my life, just perhaps turn it off periodically or turn it down so I can focus on life and things that will improve myself.

It's like the drive for food, food allows life, but the enjoyment of food should fall way way below the importance of healthy diet. The purpose of food is to live, the purpose of sex is to reproduce to let others live. To live for sex or have sex as the primary reason for a relationship is to me, a wasted and shallow life. Of the people I have known, the ones that were most focused on sex had more problems and lack of fulfillment in other areas of life. I have known people who were so much defined by sex that they didn't know anything else, meanwhile they were bogged down with every problem you can imagine that sex can bring. Sex can truly make people insane when it becomes too big a part in life.

Women spend a huge portion of their time trying to attract sexual attention and men spend that amount of time giving sexual attention. Most people have 2.5 kids, or 2.5 functional intercourses. The average modern human spends a huge portion of their whole life focused on sex. Do the math, functionally it doesn't add up well.

I am not saying that sex should always lead to procreation, but sex is increasingly a distraction from more important things in life. Maybe there is a reason why animals go into heat and only have sex during certain seasons. The rest of the year they can focus on more fulfilling obligations like survival. There's a reason why monks castrate themselves. Not saying I want to go that route...

whats the stuff they put in the servicemen's food and drink to get them to stop
sexual cravings?

salt something.

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read walnut tincture is no picnic either.


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You ask why a person would want to? There are many reasons this person might want to do that. Maybe he/she is uninvolved, alone and find dating or searching for someone a real hassle and don't want to be bothered with the urges of sex when you can't find anyone. He/she may want to pursue spiritual matters. I really do believe this society should focus on ways to reduce the sex urge. We have all this talk about sex and viagra and extenze and dating.com and findsex.com and all this stuff, but what about reducing the urge. Sex is important for procreation but it does have many many negatives. If the sex urge was reduced maybe sex crimes might be much lower. Maybe people can focus on more positive, creative things than looking for sex all the time.
I surely wish I could find something to almost eradicate my sex urge. I get so sick of people making a big deal about sex when there is so little real love in this world. I think sex can be a very selfish thing.

You say get plenty of it. Well let's see most married men complain that their over worked wives don't want to have it half the time so getting plenty could be a fulltime job just searching for it. Also, if you're a single person, seeking plenty of sex can cause a person to seek multiple partners which runs the risk of std's and possibly emotional problems. You figure even if you're involved, you or your other half has other things to do in life besides lie on their backs all night long. Ppl do hold jobs that require overtime.
Getting plenty is no guarantee this will satisfy the urge and may run the risk of sexual addiction.
If you find that you have to have it all the time and start searching for people, you may become a sexual predator or too needy of others. This poses a problem. When you become too needy of other people, they start playing head games with you.

and then drive it up the spinal cord to the real deal

Hi RunningBlind

Can you explain more about your experience with losing your sex drive? How did your life change etc...