BlueRose
First of all, I want to say I'm so very sorry for your loss. One way to find someone who is able to contact those who passed is to do a google search (or any other type of search engine). Type in "psychics" and then your location (town and state). That's how I found a local woman who is a medium and also found a good psychic that gave me a great reading. After you do your search and get some names, google those names and see if any reviews of that person come up. If you're seeing good reviews and don't find any bad ones, then consider calling that person. Some mediums are willing to do readings by phone but I think it's much better to be there in person.