On Forgiveness and Forgetting

"Guest: How does forgiveness of ones self and of others aid in the law of attraction and the law of allowing?

Abraham: In light of what you have heard us rampage here this morning, we have to say to you that forgiveness doesn't fit in very well with the art of allowing because you have to dig up what you are forgiving. The strange thing about forgiveness … it doesn't have to be this way but it often is … is that when you hear people talking about forgiveness they're usually talking about what they are forgiving: "Oh ya, it's a terrible thing she did to me … (saying mockingly with anger) and I forgive her!" And what happens is anything you give your attention to activates within your vibration.

So if something has hurt you and you're working to forgive it, you are activating it. Forgiveness is almost exactly the same and in fact we would say IS exactly the same as saying, "I'm going to deactivate this thing that hurt me." And we would say the reason it doesn't go very far, and the reason people struggle so hard with the idea of forgiveness is because they keep digging up the stuff they don't want and keeping it active in their vibration so they have a stream of people they have to forgive. They forgave their mother for what she did then kept it alive. Then they had to forgive this lover, and this lover, and this lover and this lover … and every day it is an eternal quest to forgive. And we say, "Why not just let it go and activate something that doesn't need forgiving?"

Any person is like a microcosm of the universe. They have within them things you adore and things you would rather not see. And if you are forgiving some of the stuff you don't want to see you are keeping it active so it becomes a bigger part of the personality that that person is giving to you. But if you ignore that by activating the things you appreciate … ah, that's a whole other thing.

So we would give forgiveness a new definition. We would say the ultimate way of forgiving is really forgetting. And the ultimate way of forgetting really is by remembering something you want to remember."

Abraham - Albuquerque, NM 9.2.02