I can imagine how stressful his upcoming deployment might be. Focus on doing sensual things together - like taking warm baths or giving each other massages. Some aromatherapy oils are aphrodisiacs. Rose, petitgrain, jasmine, and ylang ylang are more feminine oils, and patchouli and sandalwood are more masculine oils. You can put a few drops of any of these in the bath or in a bottle of massage oil. Keep the focus on pleasure and take the focus off of the goal of having sex. Very often, these sensual activities will naturally lead to sex. Let me know how it goes!

Melissa