Very true, you are a grown woman and know what is best for yourself. We are NOT here as a "community" to judge you. Just here to support you. Sometimes support comes in the form of words you may not want to hear. And sometimes in those words you can find bits that you find true and helpful. With all advice, just take what applies to you and leave the rest behind as just someone's opinion. With love, support and positive energy, most things work out in the long run.

It makes me feel better to hear that your guy wants to be involved. I was raised by two parents and am so thankful because I feel it made me a well-rounded stable woman that does not have "man issues". I hope he can play a big part in your child's life. And I hope he realizes the importance of it.

Best wishes on your journey.