Well, that's all possible too. I have struggled with a snobbish critical nature that even tho I didn't say or do anything overtly snobbish or critical, it was still in my thoughts and feelings. I'm much better at changing the inside and feeling more equal, humble and compassionate.

I also agree with the idea of spiders as being the feminine power symbol. I am working right now more vigorously on the relationship with my DH and so these thoughts I'm sure are working in my unconscious too.