Oh wow, my heart just reaches out to you....
Your comment "my hsb, if left alone, would live on milk, coffee, sugar and breads." I KNOW...add chocolate to that list and I would be charging my husband with keeping a second wife somewhere else...LOL...

Every meal I prepare, my son is leaning over me ( he is about six feet tall) asking "Is that REAL FOOD or one of your weird things?" My husband gets on to him and then HE sits with his plate and pokes stuff around spouting assorted witticisms about it...

I tried a new garden burger recipe last night and he fed some to his dog and asked her...Did you like the imaginary hamburger, Baby?"

I know, they are being as supportive as they know how to be...but sometimes....
They want to exist on frozen pizza and waffles and I think, why do I put myself through this...let them cake..

Then I get over my persecution complex otherwise known as "I'm not Marie Antoinette." and I move on.

Enough whining...what I do, that is what works for me...is to mix my diet, in with theirs....they get something live at every meal...besides salad...I am fortunate that for the most part, my entire family is mostly vegetarian...

To make it easier on myself...i.e. not "cooking" twice...I may for example...make live "spaghetti with maranara sauce for myself" Then I take my blender made sauce from fresh veggies and HEAT it LIGHLTY...and cook some pasta for these peeps...whole grain of course....ANYTHING I can do to get them to eat healthier...that way the sauce is not COOKED to death and they still get some benefit from it...

And the other thing...no matter how badly I want to...I am never negative about it, never try to force it on them...I just quietly about my business and hopefully, eventually, they will come around on their own.

That is what Victoria Boutenko advises in her book 12 steps to raw....I wholeheartedly recommend it!!

Take care!!