I want to say that there are people who are situational drug users. I was one decades ago, with alcohol. Law enforcement and social services personnel remain convinced that, after someone has had a stint with a drug, that person continues to do it and drops all responsibilities. This belief is entirely False.
Some of the policemen in our town Sell drugs. They still work and support their families and chase after criminals. But they sell weed, at least. I doubt if law enforcement or social services would admit this or even be aware of it.
It is totally naive to think that a young child could be "never seen again by his grandparents" if those grandparents have the desire and the money to see that child.
That's the way the world operates; if you've got good character and the money you get to see the grandchildren. Simple as that. I personally have been in court with my attorney, he suspected I had done something illegal, but he said, "I contributed to that judge's reelection campaign; he owes me. I'll take care of it." And he did.
This is truth; just the way that it is. My lawyer was a former District Attorney, very well known and knows how to pull strings. So let's get back to the problem at hand and stop living in fantasyland.
My daughter has a history of smoking crack if and only if she gets dumped by a boyfriend. I am heartbroken about it. Then she stops. How do I know she stops? Her son reports to me what's going on. Who her friends are, what they do, where they live. I can tell when she's had some xanax. I take it each night to sleep. I have done so for 25 years without increasing dosage. My mom did the same.
I was divorced in 1985. From 1984 to my second marriage in 1987 I enjoyed a few drinks in clubs almost every night. I had no business driving, actually, but I never thought about it at the time. I've been happily married now for 18 years.
We never drink; that is, I'll drink once a year at a party but he won't. Neither of us smoke. We have a drug free home. It was a situational thing with me.
Now that my daughter has been very lonely she has met a few people who want her to go to NA with them. She refuses, saying she doesn't want to be around those types of people. One of them is a heroin addict. She likes him as of yesterday.
I doubt he has a home; she has said over and over she wasnt' "taking any bums into this house with us." But , is he a bum? Or is he the sweet man we should feel sorry for that she claims? A nice man who has turned his life around? Again, I am heartbroken. I can see him moving in with them quickly. He has been living with a married couple but maybe they want him out? I don't know if the guy even has a job.
She's on food stamps. I feel like something is about to explode but I don't know what it is. Maybe I'll just explode into tears.