Sweet Lauray,

I have been reading your posts for some time and following your struggles and triumphs.

Sweetheart, this is coming from my heart - I am about to turn 50 and just finally learning to love my body. It is not about fasting, or time between eating, or even (and I know many people will not agree with me about this) what you eat.

It is about love of life and joy and making peace with yourself and the whole world. When I look at the time I have wasted worrying, charting, blaming, making rules (for myself and others), etc., I can now see how silly it all was - what a bogus waste of time and energy.

You sound young and vibrant and beautiful. The sooner you can learn to love yourself unconditionally, the sooner you will find the true peace and serenity that you deserve. It is not about FOOD. Or the lack of food. Or timelines.

I just had to say this to you. I am sorry you are lonely and afraid, but only you can change these things. You are trying to change your life by controlling your eating patterns. Can you understand the futility of that?

I am happy to have a conversation with you any time, either here or via email. Just let me know.

Love, love, love to you.