- Marriage and Private School by bootzey
18 y
3,115 7 Messages Shown
Blog: I'm having a Baby (Eventually)
I friggin’ hate my job today.
Anyway… This weekend was interesting for me and My Guy. We sat down and had conversations about parenting and such. I want to send the kid to private school. My Guy thinks private school will make the child a sissy. I’ve always intended to give my children, at least everything I had. My parents weren’t rich, but there weren’t broke either. All that struggling you see black people doing on TV really didn’t apply to me. We were a lot closer to the Cosby Show than to Good Times. I expect to give them at least that and a few more of the things I’d wish I had. Every generation makes their own improvements. My intention is to evolve not regress.
I see now why people wait until they are married before having children. There is no reason for My Guy to want to please me about anything. When I was married, my husband wanted my happiness. More than that, he didn’t want to live with me when I was angry. Since My Guy doesn’t live with me, there is no motivation to compromise. I really have to accept that there will be no assistance, at least in the way that I would want, from this man unless I marry him. Deep.
I’ve begun a cleansing fast. I love when I can kill two birds with one stone. I really needed to fast prior to conception. I usually do it for 3 weeks. It screws with my ovulation dates. Since I’m currently menstruating and fasting my ovulation date will fall some time amidst August 22- September 5. That’s a long time to be sexing, but I’ll make the sacrifice. The second reason for fasting is my church has called itself to fast one day a week for 7 weeks. I knew when the pastor called the fast, I wasn’t going to be with it, but now I can attach it to my current reasoning and do it all at once. People leave you alone when you say you’re fasting for God, much more than when you’re trying to cleanse your body.
I’m reading the pregnancy books now. I’m loading up on information. I’m still going to remain a vegetarian while pregnant. Maybe not so raw (50:50). I’ve purchased liquid prenatal vitamin tonic. The books say to start taking it prior to conception. I’m drinking red clover tea (expensive). That’s supposed to be good for fertility. I’ve begun to wean myself from smoking. I’ve said only pregnancy will make me stop. It’s hard to smoke while fasting, it makes me sick. Usually when I undertake a long fast I give it up completely until the fast is over. Doesn’t bother me to give up smoking for a time when I know what the resume day will be. So I’ve dropped down to about 3/day. I’m feeling good about things, right now. Who knows what tomorrow may bring.
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- black family by ren
18 y
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| Get married. You don't want to be another black woman left holding the baby bag and working to make ends meet. I lived around girls like that all the time. You should know better :( Don't let the desire for a baby cloud your judgement.
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- Re: black family by bootzey
18 y
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I've been married. I was ecstatic for the entire time my husband was alive. Now that he's gone, I have no desire to ever marry again.
I understand you objections. But since I'm not planning to ever marry again, does this mean I don't have the right to children? Who made up the rule that only married people are allowed to birth children? If this was a blog chronicling an adoption proccess no one would object to my not being married.
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- Re: black family by ren
18 y
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| I don't think single parenthood is the ideal for an adopted child either. However, the child is already here so that's quite different than having another baby out of wedlock.
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- Re: black family by bootzey
18 y
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| I'm curious to why you titled your response "black family". Are you implying that only black women have children outside of marriage? I sincerely hope I've interpreted your intention wrong.
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- Re: black family by ren
18 y
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| You are the one that mentioned race in your post. You are wanting to willfully deceive your boyfriend and you stated specifically that how black men get done. In case you haven't noticed, the illegitimacy rate amongst the black community is almost SEVENTY PERCENT. Those are the facts. I could talk about white people but what does that have to do with your blog really.
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- Re: black family by bootzey
18 y
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If you actually read all my posts, and I mean all of them, you would have recognized a joke for what it is. My Guy and I have mutually come to the agreement to have a child. There is no deceit present at all. This man is grown, as am I. And we are well aware how to, and how to not have a child.
Visit the joke forum so that you can recognize what humor is.
Peace.
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