- 48 Days Straight With Mom and Dad! by #29621
17 y
3,406 3 Messages Shown
Blog: Son of "Truth of Self"
It's now been 48 days since my arrival at the home of my one and only, family of origin "birth parents". This is the longest period of time I have ever spent with them on a day-long and day-to-day basis since I was living at home in 1970! Actually, I believe that I have been spending more time with them now than I ever have before! It's something on the order of a miracle! (Miracles are thought corrections!) Especially when we consider all the challenges (many of them life-long) that I have had in relating with them. I could elaborate and begin listing all those difficulties, however that really doesn't interest me right now. I am more in this present moment, a place where I find my gratitude flourishing and always ready to overflow whenever I give the slightest recognition to the truth of my all grateful self! All Grateful I Am! I'd rather begin counting my innumerable blessings!
I know that I choose the man and the woman who became my birth parents and (believe it or not) I actually have pre-incarnate memory of seeing them together although I don't know when and where exactly. They were talking in his parked car; my father was in the driver's seat facing my mother in the passenger seat and they were both nicely dressed.
Back to present time. I am all grateful to now have the very closest relationship with my father: PJ than I have ever had in my entire life! He now calls me his spiritual brother and soul mate among other expressions indicating a loving trust-based relationship. I finally have what I have been striving for since I was about 5 years into this incarnation. Essentially (in one word) that is peace!
The past relationship with my father had been most difficult for me! Possibly the number one biggest challenge for me had to do with expressing myself to my father as of about preschool age. It was a fear-based thing but it manifested in a way that people thought I had a speech impediment. I now no longer have any fear about communicating to/with PJ and that has proven itself here in my present visit with him. It might have proven itself to me years ago however it's been about eleven years since I had seen him. I remember getting an invite to visit him when he was living in Hawaii in '99 and then having a concern over whether I might be getting into a challenging communication with him. That was a major consideration for me at that time! Then I got an invite for Thanksgiving last year and although I was sincerely interested I had committed to an important project that I needed to continue attending to and so the timing was not right for me. But I kept the invitation door open. Then my sister suggested I visit him because she did not know what his life expectancy might be giving his age and health conditions. Soon the right timing came and I made it over with the help of several rides starting up in the Northern Sierra Foothills, through San Francisco to San Diego and then East into the great desert valley area.
I just returned from getting a drink in the kitchen where PJ came in and asked for a cold one himself ad then said that the guest room is my room whenever I want to be here and as such I can arrange it any way I want! That felt especially nice! It's a room comparable in size to the studio I had moved out of in the Foothills! The bed is one of the very few beds that is really comfortable for me to sleep in! On top of that, my folks just had a spa installed in the adjacent bedroom's bathroom and I'm intending to use it as of tomorrow! Yippee!
As Abraham-Hicks says: "Life on planet Earth is at it's all time best, and it's getting better all the time!"
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- Re: 48 Days Straight With Mom and Dad! by thiller
17 y
1,477
The Good Chef and Cousin,
I was moved by this message and the importance of this experience for you. Moved enough to create an account and respond with happiness and joy for you working on something that you have been carrying around like luggage for your entire life.
I write this in real tears of joy for you, wet face, seeing that child who WAS afraid to speak up. As an educator I see kids who are stuck from an experience or relationship that they have had at an early age. These experiences can be life altering and defining and many times an enormous hindrance. I see this almost daily and feel like screaming out something that I know that can only hopefully happen with time and growth “Get Over It, Work Through It, f*** that feeling of not being good enough-YOU ARE!”
For you to gain your voice is way overdue, and I am very happy that you were able to so in your lifetime. You are no longer a child anymore. You can move on and grow like you deserve!
I am so very happy for you.
Your proud cousin and Godson
-Tommy
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- Re: 48 Days Straight With Mom and Dad! by chef jem
17 y
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Thank You dear cousin!
How liberating it has been for me to let go of the "luggage"!
It is interesting now to look back on my ride down with you from SF where I had to let go of three pieces of luggage in order to get "on board" with you! (And I clearly remember how happy I was to pass those items onto an interested party that just happened to be standing close by!) How all the more delightful life might be to be able to discard beliefs, attitudes and other mental fixations as easily as I did the luggage! One key I am realizing is to have minimum expectation (read: hidden demands)! I believe that another key is to make no assumptions. See "The Four Agreements"! Using mind management tools such as these can help keep out focus in the "now" where life, joy, power, grace and peace can be found! What can be better than that?
It seems that time is required for healing the deep impacts that young children have suffered at the hands of immature adults. Time enough for the child to grow into their own adulthood to the point where they can embrace their own inner child and say "I love you! I'm here for you. Thank you for being here!". And for me the real beauty of all this is that the child can continue to be the child. In fact my brother had reminded me recently how that our 80 year-old father still has his inner child that is receptive to being "babied". For a lot of us being "babied" is just a matter of being held. Even something as simple as a real good hug can go a long way towards nourishing that inner baby! In fact touch is the first language of all babies. (They will die without it!) Maybe the children "at risk" are children who have suffered more from a lack of being held than from druggie influences. I believe I have read that touch is essential for brain development. It nourishes the cerebral pathways. That's why super-learning environments include some kind of kinesthetic activities in addition to the linear inputs. We are body, mind and spirit and therefore require three-fold nourishing. Young children (seven and under) are referred to as body-beings and need to related to as such with as much love and affection as can be tolerated. I think adults need children to literally keep "in touch" with their own inner-child as well as the child in all of us!
Yippee for The Child Everywhere!
Chef Jem
Executive Producer:
"The Raw Milk Controversy: Fact & Fiction"
AKA "Raw Milk: The Whole Truth"
See four video clips at:
http://www.youtube.com/profile_videos?user=ChefJem33&p=r
In the row of 4 icons the 4th is part 1, the 2nd is prt. 2, the 1st is prt. 3
and the 3rd is prt. 1 of chapter 2.
Place your orders through PayPal and use this e-mail location:
chef@thesetruths.com
Total cost is $20.00 per DVD (includes all S&H and any PalPal fees).
Buy 3 at the "Wholesale" rate of $14.00 ea. (plus just the S&H).
Buy 5 or more at the "distributor" rate of $10.00 ea. (+ S&H).
Contact Chef Jem for additional information.
http://chefjem.stumbleupon.com/
http://rawmilkcontroversy.weebly.com/
http://curezone.com/blogs/f.asp?f=1452
http://yoursovereignhealth.blogspot.com/
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