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The Modern Technology monster will sap children's efforts
** Modern Technology should be limited and controller in the lives of children, especially teens! **
Date: 9/5/2019 11:54:01 PM ( 5 y ) ... viewed 942 times " A must-read for people with teens and technology!
Technology should be introduced to children's life as late as possible, and definitely, should be kept out of their bedrooms and other totally private areas. Plus most of the Videogames, social media and the internet that demand so much of their attention! Because at younger ages undisciplined minds can and will generally become distracted from the keys elements of their life! Which also makes technology the enemy of their sleep which is critical for the overall teens’ health.
Much of this is from a post from Quartz’s New York - July 26, 2017.
Children need both affection and structure in order to develop into secure, happy adults.
But if parents can only provide one, it should be structure, said Lisa Damour, a psychologist who specializes in adolescent girls, and the author of Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions Into Adulthood.
“They can get warmth from their teachers, from their friends’ parents, but they can only get structure from parents,” Damour said in a conversation with Kevin Delaney, Quartz’s editor-in-chief, at Quartz’s New York office on July 26, 2017.
That contradicts many of the messages parents are sent through popular culture and parenting guides. But Damour, who also writes for the New York Times, said studies prove it out. Children who are raised in a stern, business-like way may be less happy as adults, but they’ll have the tools they need to function. Children raised without discipline or rules can be stunted and ill-equipped for adulthood.
The worst outcomes come when children are raised without either, and they run the risk of delinquency, she said. It’s far better to make sure children have both. “They need to feel loved, and they need to know the rules,” she said. “That’s your job” as parents.
Adolescents actually want structure from their parents, despite their protestations to the contrary. Permissiveness and inconsistency from parents can be unsettling and provoke anxiety, she said.
“Being a teenager feels like you’re out of control and you’re surrounded by people who are out of control,” she said. “You don’t want parents to be out of control.”
Damour—the mother of her own teenage daughter—says she gives parents a few hard-and-fast rules in her practice. But she does offer some advice on how to raise teens:
Frame rules around safety. Kids are more apt to follow guidelines if they understand the rules’ purpose is to keep them safe. Insisting they obey for reasons of morality or hierarchy (eg “because I’m your father!”) is more likely to backfire.
Don’t underestimate the power of apologizing. It tells teenagers they’re respected, and it helps builds trust.
Stress is a normal part of growing up, and it helps teens grow and become resilient. It becomes a problem when they have no downtime, or opportunities to relax.
“You may lose some of the battles, but You had rather lose the battle with a 17-year old than a 13-year old.”
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