My daughter - Depression, SSRIs - Booted from College

Dear colleagues,

I have come to crossroads with my daughter's Depression ( I do not want to label that)and her path to recovery. She was told by her college that she cannot go to that college due to lack of evidence that she can cope with the work because when she took a medical leave she has nothing to show about what she did except go to therapy and stay at home, no work, no studying etc. I do agree with the decision made by the committiee at the college.

I feel so strongly that for year and half she has been given all available medication on the market (all SSRIs) and nothing worked. She also has been given all kinds of sleeping pills when she cannot fall asleep. I am totally against these medication, but my wife and her side of the family are very much belivers of trying a new drug. My daughter is 22 so she can make her own decisions, but I hate to see a wonderful person and a A+ student going down the drain because how our society views illnesses. She does not even have depression, it could be very simple case of thyroid or hypoglycemia. This nice kid went to college and started drinking (Still in closet) and I think still does occassionally, which has knocked something out of balance in her system, she was always a bit hypoglycemic as a child but when she was at home eating home cooked foods she was fine, but when they are on their own, they eat icecream for a meal or a candy bar and survive which also does not help. All her foods are processed foods. I have asked her to do many tests, like liver function, thyroid, hypoglycemia etc, but she does not want to. Here are my frustrating questions:

1. How do I get my wife to help my daughter to understand that she needs to try an alternative solution? Every time we talk about this issue, she has to be right, I have to take the blame for all the wrong things and who wins the argument and we miss the point, but she does not give in. My wife always feels that she has to make the difference.

2. What can I say to my daughter about trying alternative medicine or even testing so she at least tries?

3. Should I let the truth out about drinking and the fact that may have done the damage? I know I have no proof other than her friends saying things or her excuses like someone dropped beer on me, so I stink. I have told her indirectly that after she graduates she can drink socially, but alcohol is not good for knowing her medical history.

Thank you. Sorry for the long post.
ZMZM