The Transformational Path Toward Potential "Community" by Chef JeM Blog entry

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The Transformational Path Toward Potential "Community"

"Community" - it's nature's way!

Date: 8/11/2022 6:02:22 AM ( 24 mon ) ... viewed 1392 times

June 12, 2024 - A Path Based on: “Fundamental Laws" -

“The fundamental laws of do no harm, honor your neighbor as yourself, fairness, and love must be our strongest bulwark of self-governance upon which all else depends, and without which all rules and SOPs[i], all codes, statutes, and regulations fail us.

Work together to promote a community of communities and a nation built of many nations, all bound together by a common destiny and common needs for peace, justice, and security of our rights and persons.”[22]

In 2008 this writer returned to where he has been living and working continuously ever since for the past sixteen years with one intention: to live and work - in, for, and toward what he now understands is essentially amounts to as a: “peacekeeping community.” He now adds: “peacekeeping” to his definition of authentic community based on what he considers to be the standard of community building: “The Different Drum
Community-making and Peace” By Morgan Scott Peck ·[23]*

Although the term: “community” in “The Enchanted Garden Intentional Community” may not have been fully defined let alone agreed upon by everyone who has ever lived on the third-of-an-acre site - this writer defines it in terms of peace-keeping. Peace is the fruit of righteous behavior: right thinking , feeling and acting that also produces joy for expressing this kind of behavior that endeavors to keep the peace but not at the cost of radical self-honesty. It’s the kind of behavior that is also reflected through the ‘Four Agreements.” (an extensive introduction of which follows here.)
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[i] standard operating procedures
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June 10, 2024 - Introduction to The Four Agreements -

Domestication and the Dream of the Planet

“WHAT YOU ARE SEEING AND HEARING RIGHT NOW IS nothing but a dream. You are dreaming right now in this moment. You are dreaming with the brain awake.

Dreaming is the main function of the mind, and the mind dreams twenty-four hours a day. It dreams when the brain is awake, and it also dreams when the brain is asleep. The difference is that when the brain is awake, there is a material frame that makes us perceive things in a linear way. When we go to sleep we do not have the frame, and the dream has the tendency to change constantly.

Humans are dreaming all the time. Before we were born the humans before us created a big outside dream that we will call society’s dream or the dream of the planet. The dream of the planet is the collective dream of billions of smaller, personal dreams, which together create a dream of a family, a dream of a community, a dream of a city, a dream of a country, and finally a dream of the whole humanity. The dream of the planet includes all of society’s rules, its beliefs, its laws, its religions, its different cultures and ways to be, its governments, schools, social events, and holidays.

We are born with the capacity to learn how to dream, and the humans who live before us teach us how to dream the way society dreams. The outside dream has so many rules that when a new human is born, we hook the child’s attention and introduce these rules into his or her mind. The outside dream uses Mom and Dad, the schools, and religion to teach us how to dream.

Attention is the ability we have to discriminate and to focus only on that which we want to perceive. We can perceive millions of things simultaneously, but using[2] our attention, we can hold whatever we want to perceive in the foreground of our mind. The adults around us hooked our attention and put information into our minds through repetition. That is the way we learned everything we know.

By using our attention we learned a whole reality, a whole dream. We learned how to behave in society: what to believe and what not to believe; what is acceptable and what is not acceptable; what is good and what is bad; what is beautiful and what is ugly; what is right and what is wrong. It was all there already — all that knowledge, all those rules and concepts about how to behave in the world. When you were in school, you sat in a little chair and put your attention on what the teacher was teaching you.

When you went to church, you put your attention on what the priest or minister was telling you. It is the same dynamic with Mom and Dad, brothers and sisters: They were all trying to hook your attention. We also learn to hook the attention of other humans,and we develop a need for attention which can become very competitive. Children compete for the attention of their parents, their teachers, their friends. ‘Look at me! Look at what I’m doing! Hey, I’m here.’ The need for attention becomes very strong and continues into adulthood.

The outside dream hooks our attention and teaches us what to believe, beginning with the language that we speak. Language is the code for understanding and communication between humans. Every letter, every word in each language is an agreement. We call this a page in a book; the word page is an agreement that we understand. Once we understand the code, our attention is hooked and the energy is transferred from one person to another.

It was not your choice to speak English. You didn’t choose your religion or your moral values — they were already there before you were born. We never had the opportunity to choose what to believe or what not to believe. We never chose even the smallest of these agreements. We didn’t even choose our own name.

As children, we didn’t have the opportunity to choose our beliefs, but we agreed with the information that was passed to us from the dream of the planet via other humans. The only way to store information is by agreement. The outside dream may hook our attention, but if we don’t agree, we don’t store that information. As soon as we agree, we believe it,and this is called faith. To have faith is to believe unconditionally.

That’s how we learn as children. Children believe everything adults say. We agree with them, and our faith is so strong that the belief system controls our whole dream of life. We didn’t choose these beliefs, and we may have rebelled against them, but we were not strong enough to win the rebellion. The result is surrender to the beliefs with our agreement.

I call this process the domestication of humans.[3] And through this domestication we learn how to live and how to dream. In human domestication, the information from the outside dream is conveyed to the inside dream, creating our whole belief system. First the child is taught the names of things: Mom, Dad, milk, bottle. Day by day, at home, at school, at church, and from television, we are told how to live, what kind of behavior is acceptable. The outside dream teaches us how to be a human.[4] We have a whole concept of what a “woman” is and what a “man” is. And we also learn to judge: We judge ourselves, judge other people, judge the neighbors.

Children are domesticated the same way that we domesticate a dog, a cat, or any other animal. In order to teach a dog we punish the dog and we give it rewards. We train our children whom we love so much the same way that we train any domesticated animal: with a system of punishment and reward. We are told, ‘You’re a good boy,’ or ‘You’re a good girl,’ when we do what Mom and Dad want us to do. When we don’t, we are ‘a bad girl’ or ‘a bad boy.’

When we went against the rules we were punished; when we went along with the rules we got a reward. We were punished many times a day, and we were also rewarded many times a day. Soon we became afraid of being punished and also afraid of not receiving the reward. The reward is the attention that we got from our parents or from other people like siblings,teachers, and friends. We soon develop a need to hook other people’s attention in order to get the reward.

The reward feels good, and we keep doing what others want us to do in order to get the reward. With that fear of being punished and that fear of not getting the reward, we start pretending to be what we are not, just to please others, just to be good enough for someone else. We try to please Mom and Dad, we try to please the teachers at school, we try to please the church, and so we start acting. We pretend to be what we are not because we are afraid of being rejected. The fear of being rejected becomes the fear of not being good enough. Eventually we become someone that we are not. We become a copy of Mamma’s beliefs, Daddy’s beliefs, society’s beliefs, and religion’s beliefs.

All our normal tendencies are lost in the process of domestication. And when we are old enough for our mind to understand, we learn the word no. The adults say, ‘Don’t do this and don’t do that.’ We rebel and say, ‘No!’ We rebel because we are defending our freedom. We want to be ourselves, but we are very little, and the adults are big and strong. After a certain time we are afraid because we know that every time we do something wrong we are going to be punished.

The domestication is so strong that at a certain point in our lives we no longer need anyone to domesticate us. We don’t need Mom or Dad, the school or the church to domesticate us. We are so well trained that we are our own domesticator. We are an auto domesticated animal. We can now domesticate ourselves according to the same belief system we were given, and using the same system of punishment and reward. We punish ourselves when we don’t follow the rules according to our belief system; we reward ourselves when we are the ‘good boy’ or ‘good girl.’

The belief system is like a Book of Law that rules our mind. Without question, whatever is in that Book of Law, is our truth. We base all of our judgments according to the Book of Law, even if these judgments go against our own inner nature. Even moral laws like the Ten Commandments are programmed into our mind in the process of domestication. One by one, all these agreements go into the Book of Law, and these agreements rule our dream.

There is something in our minds that judges everybody and everything, including the weather, the dog, the cat — everything. The inner Judge uses what is in our Book of Law to judge everything we do and don’t do, everything we think and don’t think, and everything we feel and don’t feel. Everything lives under the tyranny of this Judge. Every time we do something that goes against the Book of Law, the Judge says we are guilty,we need to be punished, we should be ashamed. This happens many times a day, day after day, for all the years of our lives.

There is another part of us that receives the judgments, and this part is called the Victim. The Victim carries the blame, the guilt, and the shame. It is the part of us that says, ‘Poor me, I’m not good enough, I’m not intelligent enough, I’m not attractive enough, I’m not worthy of love, poor me.’ The big Judge agrees and says, ‘Yes, you are not good enough.’ And this is all based on a belief system that we never chose to believe. These beliefs are so strong, that even years later when we are exposed to new concepts and try to make our own decisions, we find that these beliefs still control our lives.

Whatever goes against the Book of Law will make you feel a funny sensation in your solar plexus, and it’s called fear. Breaking the rules in the Book of Law opens your emotional wounds, and your reaction is to create emotional poison. Because everything that is in the Book of Law has to be true, anything that challenges what you believe is going to make you feel unsafe. Even if the Book of Law is wrong, it makes you feel safe.

That is why we need a great deal of courage to challenge our own beliefs. Because even if we know we didn’t choose all these beliefs, it is also true that we agreed to all of them. The agreement is so strong that even if we understand the concept of it not being true, we feel the blame, the guilt, and the shame that occur if we go against these rules.

Just as the government has a book of laws that rule the society’s dream[1], our belief system is the Book of Laws that rules our personal dream. All these laws exist in our mind, we believe them, and the Judge inside us bases everything on these rules. The Judge decrees, and the Victim suffers the guilt and punishment. But who says there is justice in this dream? True justice is paying only once for each mistake. True injustice is paying more than once for each mistake.

How many times do we pay for one mistake? The answer is thousands of times. The human is the only animal on earth that pays a thousand times for the same mistake. The rest of the animals pay once for every mistake they make. But not us. We have a powerful memory. We make a mistake,we judge ourselves, we find ourselves guilty, and we punish ourselves. If justice exists, then that was enough; we don’t need to do it again. But every time we remember, we judge ourselves again, we are guilty again, and we punish ourselves again, and again, and again. If we have a wife or husband he or she also reminds us of the mistake, so we can judge ourselves again, punish ourselves again, and find ourselves guilty again. Is this fair? ………

How many times do we make our spouse, our children, or our parents pay for the same mistake? Every time we remember the mistake, we blame them again and send them all the emotional poison we feel at the injustice, and then we make them pay again for the same mistake. Is that justice? The Judge in the mind is wrong because the belief system, the Book of Law, is wrong. The whole dream is based on false law. Ninety-five percent of the beliefs we have stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we believe all these lies.

In the dream of the planet it is normal for humans to suffer, to live in fear, and to create emotional dramas. The outside dream is not a pleasant dream; it is a dream of violence, a dream of fear, a dream of war, a dream of injustice. The personal dream of humans will vary, but globally it is mostly a nightmare. If we look at human society we see a place so difficult to live in because it is ruled by fear. Throughout the world we see human suffering, anger, revenge, addictions, violence in the street, and tremendous injustice. It may exist at different levels in different countries around the world, but fear is controlling the outside dream.

If we compare the dream of human society with the description of hell that religions all around the world have promulgated, we find they are exactly the same. Religions say that hell is a place of punishment, a place of fear, pain, and suffering, a place where the fire burns you. Fire is generated by emotions that come from fear. Whenever we feel the emotions of anger, jealousy, envy, or hate, we experience a fire burning within us. We are living in a dream of hell.

If you consider hell as a state of mind, then hell is all around us. Others may warn us that if we don’t do what they say we should do, we will go to hell. Bad news! We are already in hell, including the people who tell us that. No human can condemn another to hell because we are already there. Others can put us into a deeper hell, true. But only if we allow this to happen.

Every human has his or her own personal dream, and just like the society dream, it is often ruled by fear. We learn to dream hell in our own life, in our personal dream. The same fears manifest in different ways foreach person, of course, but we experience anger, jealousy, hate, envy, and other negative emotions. Our personal dream can also become an ongoing nightmare where we suffer and live in a state of fear. But we don’t need to dream a nightmare. It is possible to enjoy a pleasant dream.

All of humanity is searching for truth, justice, and beauty. We are on an eternal search for the truth because we only believe in the lies we have stored in our mind. We are searching for justice because in the belief system we have, there is no justice. We search for beauty because it doesn’t matter how beautiful a person is, we don’t believe that person has beauty. We keep searching and searching, when everything is already within us. There is no truth to find. Wherever we turn our heads, all we see is the truth, but with the agreements and beliefs we have stored in our mind, we have no eyes for this truth.

We don’t see the truth because we are blind. What blinds us are all those false beliefs we have in our mind. We have the need to be right and to make others wrong. We trust what we believe, and our beliefs set us up for suffering. It is as if we live in the middle of a fog that doesn’t let us see any further than our own nose. We live in a fog that is not even real. This fog isa dream, your personal dream of life — what you believe, all the concepts you have about what you are, all the agreements you have made with others, with yourself, and even with God.

Your whole mind is a fog which the Toltecs called a mitote (pronounced MIH-TOE ′-TAY). Your mind is a dream where a thousand people talk at the same time, and nobody understands each other. This is the condition of the human mind — a big mitote, and with that big mitote you cannot see what you really are. In India they call the mitote maya, which means illusion. It is the personality’s notion of ‘I am.’ Everything you believe about yourself and the world, all the concepts and programming you have in your mind, are all the mitote. We cannot see who we truly are; we cannot see that we are not free.

That is why humans resist life. To be alive is the biggest fear humans have. Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive — the risk to be alive and express what we really are. Just being ourselves is the biggest fear of humans. We have learned to live our lives trying to satisfy other people’s demands. We have learned to live by other people’s points of view because of the fear of not being accepted and of not being good enough for someone else.

During the process of domestication, we form an image of what perfection is in order to try to be good enough. We create an image of how we should be in order to be accepted by everybody. We especially try to please the ones who love us, like Mom and Dad, big brothers and sisters, the priests and the teacher. Trying to be good enough for them, we create an image of perfection, but we don’t fit this image. We create this image, but this image is not real. We are never going to be perfect from this point of view. Never!

Not being perfect, we reject ourselves. And the level of self-rejection depends upon how effective the adults were in breaking our integrity. After domestication it is no longer about being good enough for anybody else. We are not good enough for ourselves because we don’t fit with our own image of perfection. We cannot forgive ourselves for not being what we wish to be, or rather what we believe we should be. We cannot forgive ourselves for not being perfect.

We know we are not what we believe we are supposed to be and so we feel false, frustrated, and dishonest. We try to hide ourselves, and we pretend to be what we are not. The result is that we feel unauthentic and wear social masks to keep others from noticing this. We are so afraid that somebody else will notice that we are not what we pretend to be. We judge others according to our image of perfection as well, and naturally they fall short of our expectations.

We dishonor ourselves just to please other people. We even do harm to our physical bodies just to be accepted by others. You see teenagers taking drugs just to avoid being rejected by other teenagers. They are not aware that the problem is that they don’t accept themselves. They reject themselves because they are not what they pretend to be. They wish to be a certain way, but they are not, and for this they carry shame and guilt. Humans punish themselves endlessly for not being what they believe they should be. They become very self-abusive, and they use other people to abuse themselves as well.

But nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves, and it is the Judge, the Victim, and the belief system that make us do this. True, we find people who say their husband or wife, or mother or father, abused them, but you know that we abuse ourselves much more than that. The way we judge ourselves is the worst judge that ever existed. If we make a mistake in front of people, we try to deny the mistake and cover it up. But as soon as we are alone, the Judge becomes so strong, the guilt is so strong, and we feel so stupid, or so bad, or so unworthy.

In your whole life nobody has ever abused you more than you have abused yourself. And the limit of your self-abuse is exactly the limit that you will tolerate from someone else. If someone abuses you a little more than you abuse yourself, you will probably walk away from that person. But if someone abuses you a little less than you abuse yourself, you will probably stay in the relationship and tolerate it endlessly.

If you abuse yourself very badly, you can even tolerate someone who beats you up, humiliates you, and treats you like dirt. Why? Because in your belief system you say, ‘I deserve it. This person is doing me a favor by being with me. I’m not worthy of love and respect. I’m not good enough.’

We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal. Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves; it is why we don’t accept ourselves the way we are, and why we don’t accept others the way they are.”

PRELUDE TO A NEW DREAM …"[21]

Notes
[1] However, the “government” and the “book of laws” have been limited by the superior Laws as to their true jurisdiction ["superior Laws" that are written (i.e. The Organic Laws) and the unwritten Laws that the Creator wrote within us] and based on these limits “jurisdiction” is subject to being questioned and challenged at any time. See more on this and related subject matters at the: “Son of Truth of Self” CureZone blogs.
[2] AKA “focusing”
[3] This: “domestication” is more insidiousness than the concept simply of behavior modification because it creates a mind-dominated false self that is subject to the hierarchy of power over others. This “false self” robs us of our divine birthright! Our “birthright” is never revealed to us in the world and consequently we don’t know what we are being deprived of until we become desperate enough to make the effort to break through the illusions of this. And even with the breakthrough complete de-conditioning requires our great dedication of persistence, much “due diligence” and all the self-love and forgiveness of all others that we can possibly muster!
[4] A human is a: “hu-man” - hu = color - the color of man It is essentially an illusion of what it really is to be a man - a woman.
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June 9, 2024 - The Meaning of Life! -

If you are willing to help others and put up with the difficulties this involves(i.e "interpersonal troubles" also referred to on this Blog page[i]) other beings of a higher order will decide to help and support you.

As long as you refuse to have anything to do with those who are in an inferior position, you will be depriving yourself of certain exchanges with them, and the invisible world, in turn, will refuse to exchange with you.

It is important for human beings to learn to have genuinely reciprocal relationships.

The wise and learned must pass on their light, and the ignorant must receive it and rejoice in it.

The rich must visit the poor and be happy that they are able to do some good; the poor should feel helped and encouraged. Such sincere, brotherly reciprocity is a source of great happiness.

But those whose granaries and coffers are full and who refuse to put their wealth into circulation become like swamps: they maintain a state of inner stagnation. They will never discover the meaning of life for they fail to recognize the powerful law of reciprocity."[20]

Note: [i] See post: "January 21, 2023"

Comment: "Silver and gold have i none. But such as i have give i thee. ..." Acts 3:6
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May 28, 2024 - Further Insights -

Re: “A healthy social life is found only, when in the mirror of each soul the whole community finds its reflection" -

From this writer's perspective & now insightfully rephrased as: "The Whole Community is shaped in the mirror of each participant's soul!" -

This "mirror" is actually a live mirroring that can be referred to as: "soul mirroring" and that is probably best accomplished within direct aura-to-aura contact between people. This is actually what M. Scott Peck was pointing to in his community-building "bible" titled: "A Different Drum."[19]* He demonstrated the need for this yet didn't have a concise term for this radically-honest relating that he convincingly presented that it is absolutely required for authentic community-building.
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January 14, 2024 -

"When you sense that you have found a philosophy that is true, ... follow it without asking anyone’s opinion. If you absolutely want to ask questions, ask them of your own soul, your spirit or the God within."[18]
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January 6, 2024 - Self-Mastery -

"The secret of self-mastery lies in a very simple rule: do not allow certain thoughts and feelings to take hold in your head or your heart, for it is then too late to stop their effects."[17]
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December 19, 2023 - To "Grow in kindness, patience, generosity and selflessness"[16]
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December 7, 2023 -

"The main thing that prevents people from making progress is their tendency to think that they know it all, that they are as good as they need to be ..."[15]
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Comment: Over the better part of this year one of the main "mantras" of this writer has been and continues daily to be: "I do not know"! And when it comes to knowing others he has said: "I don't know Jack!"

Related to this is the fact that there exists so much pressure that has been placed on having an "answer" as if one knows something which is all deeply part of the early conditioning that apparently virtually everyone is conditioned with. However there are individuals who are genetically designed "To Wait" and some who are designed with a Human Design throat gate known as: "Stand Still." For these individuals (and others) it is most true and right for them not to acquiesce under external pressure.
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November 28, 2023 - Reflections after the latest "house meeting" -

There is only so much that can be: "swept under the rug" - before those things pile up to the point where it becomes much too difficult to walk on the rug anymore!
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November 14, 2023 -

Renaming this blog in light of this writer's current realization that although the transformational path can be entered upon by choice that doesn't guarantee community. Having just written this now this writer thinks "community" could be the object of one's contemplation in a three-day "enlightenment intensive"-focus. In thinking further on this now he also has a parallel thought regarding forming an "enlightenment intensive" coop without a "master" and without a cook.
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November 12, 2023 - Alchemy -

"The existence of Black Madonnas is linked to the alchemical secrets of the transmutation of matter. The base material, which alchemists seek to transform, is said to be black, unorganized,(i) raw matter: chaos. The Black Madonnas are related to this original alchemical substance. This is why these statues were usually placed underground in caves or crypts, because the matter they symbolize is extracted from the primitive virgin earth; this is what the term ‘black’ expresses. ..."[14]

(i) This writer laughed out loud at this point in his reading of the above "Thought" upon suddenly realizing that this description of: "the base material" also described the true nature of: "My Enchanted Garden Onion" that was further verified for him with the term: "chaos"!

Upon completing his reading this writer said: "Surprise surprise - you have the 'Black Madonna' before your eyes!"
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Continuing - November 7, 2023 - Human Relations -

"...human relations are very complex; affinities and antipathies are usually determined by past incarnations. This is why you must not judge others; ..."[13]
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November 7, 2023 More "Community-Building" -

"Community-Building" includes the building up of each individual in their own sacred and unique individuality. In other words "Community-Building" is not homogenization. If it were then Rudolf Steiner would not be able to say: “A healthy social life is found only, when in the mirror of each soul the whole community finds its reflection, and when in the whole community the virtue of each one is living.”[12]

Plus - The community itself becomes its own peculiar individuality! ; ~ )
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October 1, 2023 - We Must Learn to Re-establish Silence Within Us -

"Someone who remains silent shows that they are ready to listen and thus to obey. On the other hand, someone who speaks up shows that they want to take the initiative, to lead and to dominate. Silence is therefore characteristic of the feminine principle, which submits to and models itself on the masculine principle. The reason we must learn to re-establish silence within us is so the divine Spirit can work on us. As long as we are rebellious, stubborn and anarchic, the Spirit cannot guide us and we remain weak and miserable. ..."[11]
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August 22, 2023 - Alchemy & True Magic Over the Enchanted! -

"... matter is nothing but a condensation of energy, it is up to human beings to transform that energy. In doing so they enter the realm of alchemy and magic."[10]

Comment: That which might be considered "enchanted" is now realized by this writer (with the help of the full quote of the above at its source[10]) as a passive state - and over the course of the last several years at: "The Enchanted Garden Intentional Community" (AKA: My Enchanted Garden Onion) he has seen most of the people who have arrived here have been passive in relationship to the day to day reality of the actual garden/s here.

An alchemical transformation is needed in order to fully return to the garden! Otherwise what's "enchanted" may be as good as dead!
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June 24, 2023 - Universal Law #21

"Law of Divine Order •Everything is exactly as it should be! There are no accidents in life. Every seemingly negative event leads us to a new path. All of your experiences were meant to happen. Accept them for what they are and for letting them shape your journey."[9]
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June 19, 2023 -

"...By the way in which you consider things, you introduce something of yourself into them that is likely to transform them. However, human beings are generally content to take things as they are – people are passive, they are not creators and that is a shame! If they were conscious, they could add so many beneficial elements to everything they do!"[7]
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Comment: This blog-writer is amazed to have just received the above "Thought" (partially quoted) after having experienced about an hour of Karaoke[8] with fellow "Enchanted Gardeners" in "The Enchanted Garden" where he requested two songs: "Stop In The Name of Love" and "Who Are The Brain Police." After which he "confessed" to having a secret fantasy of singing at least one piece by either "The Supremes" (or another popular song by a female singer) in drag (imagining that he could add some "beneficial elements").
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February 10, 2023 - "Hold on to Your Heart." -

"Someone comes to you and says, ‘Oh, what a beautiful violin you have there, please give it to me!’ If you are wise, you will say, ‘No, I will not give you my violin, it is mine, but come every day and I will play it for you.’ But are you wise? ..."[6]
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Comment: Omraam uses the violin as a metaphor for the heart. In the midst of reading this "Thought" this Blog-writer instantly realized that he had given away his "violin" to what he thought was "community" at the time of his entrance into the "enchanted garden onion." What a dramatic lesson this had been for him for the better part of about fourteen years! Omraam points to the remedy for this at the end of the "Thought"[6]*
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January 30, 2023 -

"Sharing honestly what you notice frees you from the suffering caused by attachment to lying, withholding, phoniness, and ideals."[4]
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Comment: Of the 6 "Core Principles of Radical Honesty" (that are presented at the linked site for the above quote) this Blog-writer responds (personally identifying) enthusiastically with this one and most specifically regarding his "attachment" to his "ideals" that can also be referred to as his "Book of Law"![5] (Especially see: "6. What most folks call spiritual is what we call experiential."[4])

"...we have the Book of Law, the big Judge and the Victim who rule our lives. We are no longer free because the Judge, the Victim, and the belief system don't allow us to be who we really are. Once our minds have been programmed with all that garbage, we are no longer happy."[5]

This writer recognizes that "Radical Honesty" is largely synonymous with "The Four Agreements" starting with the first agreement: "Be Impeccable With Your Word."[5]

Quintessential specifics: "reporting", "telling the truth", "expressing uncomfortable feelings and secrets", "your communication", "sharing what you notice about your experience", and especially: "productive conflict that leads to resolution rather than avoidance" all point to the possibility of actually relating directly with others, all of which requires a willingness on the part of others to listen to your "truth" - whatever that may be!

People who are willing to be present for this kind of radically-honest communication are the ones who are more able to co-create genuine community. On the other hand - sharing radically-honest communications is most likely contrary to the "conditioning" that most people have been living under virtually all of their lives and consequently this is why most people probably need some form of supported de-conditioning for their personal transformation in this regards.
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January 21, 2023 -

“…anyone who manages to stay good-natured amidst painful situations and interpersonal troubles is going to build up merit and virtue and, as a result, will achieve the elevation of his or her soul. …

… If, in a trying setting like this (amidst painful situations and interpersonal troubles), a person can still keep his thoughts virtuous; if he can hold his or her ground against the onslaught of modern values and views, ... and if he still believes in the divine in the face of assaults from the atheist and evolutionary camps, then that person will fulfill his purpose…

… The troubled nature of this world is meant to make something great of these lives.”[3]
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Comment: Although this Blog writer isn't a member of the organization that is apparently represented by the man who authored the extract that is quoted above - he nevertheless essentially agrees with these gems of truth! In fact - the true spirit of the above was actually indicated in the expressions of this writer to a "fellow gardener" just within the previous hours today! (There may only be a couple souls still on this planet who realize how true these words are! ; ~ )
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December 26, 2022 -

"...We are part of that Nature. At the same time, the loss of the ancient knowing that all of Nature had an interior self-aware sentient consciousness, just as do we, means we are too often blind to the sacrifices of All Our Relations."[2]
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Comment: Quoted with acknowledgement of the serendipity in the last twelve words that echo the same message this Blog-writer shared with a Good Shepherd within about the last week.
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December 23, 2022 - "Collaboration ... the word of 2023" -

"From humble roots into a strong and healthy tree" -

"...Over the years, the Gene Keys teachings have grown, from humble roots into a strong and healthy tree today. In the early years, storms would come sporadically and blow the young sapling back and forth, rocking it from side to side. One wondered at times if she would survive. But such winds in life actually serve to strengthen our roots, so long as we have been well planted. This is true of any endeavor in life."[1]
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Comment: "Well Planted" - is a wonderful phrase that works both metaphorically as well as in 3D! In "the enchanted garden onion" there are and have been many examples of what happens to things that have not been "well planted." Typical of this writer he wants to underscore the lessons learned. In his opinion the so-called "vetting" process with its questionnaire deserves to include an inquiry in regards to being "well planted." This consideration can lead to more successful bridging/bringing of the heavenly/ideal down to the earthly ground.
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December 11, 2022 -

Personal Transformation may be: "what a concept!" and/or it may be actually experienced in virtually endless various ways. If you are already on your Personal Transformation path then this Blog-writer could ask you: is your Personal Transformation just about you? ......... For this Blog-writer the answer is no!

He has identified what appears may have been one of his biggest inner growth opportunities, namely his tendency to project his ideal unto others. Recognizing these projections has been a process of applying the "Third Agreement": (in a nutshell) “Don't make assumptions.”

The primary projections upon others that he has identified over the last fourteen years has been all about sharing community-based relations with others. (He could fill a book about this! ; ~ )

He is now in the process of more completely assimilating his insight that others are actually on their own highly individual paths that mainly concern simply wanting to live in "peace" with others rather than participate more engagingly in a transformational journey of authentic community-building.

Before he continues to elaborate any further upon this line of thinking he asks: Has this brief introduction regarding this insight framed a distinction between an individual's solo path and that of a shared path of authentic community-building?

Now (and that means right now in this: "Holy Instant" to 10:09 PM) a housemate came to check-in and reported a transformation in her relating with another at her work site! ; ~ ) This writer counts that instant report as a real-life validation of the subject matter presented here and relevant to the question that he just posted a moment ago!

Thank you U-n-i-Verse!!!
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October 24, 2022 - Dialogue is this blog-writer's foundation for community-building. All other forms of any so-called "communication" that are without dialogue potentially leave "the door to psychopathy" open and will be regarded as such by this blog-writer from this moment forward.
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August 11, 2022 -

M. Scott Peck, author of "A Different Drum" discovered four quintessential stages to authentic community with each of these based on the way we communicate with one another. Community-building communication is not generally taught in our pubic school systems and consequentially we suffer for the lack of authentic community in our lives on every level, interpersonal and collectively. However when the reality of this is finally realized it can provide the impetus for personal transformation.

In 1980/81 this blog-writer published a first issue of Transformations with a cover graphic of a butterfly in a circle that included a worm at the base of the design. Another image could be that of the dragonfly that goes through three distinct stages of metamorphosis before it finally emerges as what it was designed to be! "Human Beings" can also be transformed! Although they may or may not begin their transformational process like "worms" nevertheless a lot can be learned from the lowly worm. Charles Darwin gave much credence to the worm calling it man's best friend.

My fellow "enchanted gardener" Ken Small says: "Worms have the transformational bottom line covered perfectly." If you don't immediately understand the truth of this you might consider composting by starting to compost your kitchen scraps and especially with the addition of some composting worms. In a matter of days they will demonstrate the truth of this "bottom line" for you!
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Notes:

[1] In "The Gene Keys Ethos - Collaboration - the next great step for humanity" via subscription email.

[2] https://thecollectiveimagination.com/2022/12/26/event-and-aftermath-the-creation-of-love-through-crisis/

[3] https://www.theepochtimes.com/mkt_app/falun-gong-founder-li-hongzhi-publishes-why-do-human-beings-exist_5000952.html

[4] https://www.radicalhonesty.com/core-principles-radical-honesty

[5] "THE FOUR AGREEMENTS" Chapter 6 The Toltec Path To Freedom - Breaking Old Agreements:
https://books-library.net/files/books-library.online-02171342Go0P8.pdf

[6] https://www.prosveta-usa.com/2023-02-11

[7] https://www.prosveta-usa.com/2023-06-23

[8] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karaoke

[9] "Walking Through Your FEAR" By: Teri Kealoha Sahm©:
file:///Users/user/Downloads/Walking%20Through%20Your%20Fear.pdf
and from: https://mega.nz/file/ks0yELhT#L3WtoOIiXJTOlp477xXMZYoyu_WJLWPiQ_YS0L5PmvI
Original source:
https://tasa.americanstatenationals.org/walking-through-your-f-e-a-r/

[10] https://www.prosveta-usa.com/2023-08-22

[11] https://www.prosveta-usa.com/2023-10-01

[12] https://www.awaldorfjourney.com/2011/01/the-healthy-social-life/

[13] https://www.prosveta-usa.com/2023-11-08

[14] https://www.prosveta-usa.com/2023-11-13

[15] https://www.prosveta-usa.com/2023-12-07

[16] https://www.prosveta-usa.com/2023-12-19

[17] https://www.prosveta-usa.com/2024-01-06

[18] https://www.prosveta-usa.com/2024-01-14

[19] See post of August 11, 2022

[20] https://www.prosveta-usa.com/2024-06-10

[21] Introduction to: THE FOUR AGREEMENTS - Wisdom Book By: DON MIGUEL RUIZ

[22] http://annavonreitz.com/marshalsatarms.pdf

[23] https://www.google.com/books/edition/The_Different_Drum/3Qibnqk2g4sC?hl=en
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