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Passion and Heat, Selfishness and "love"
A Yogis insight on the neutral mind
Date: 1/9/2008 11:41:22 PM ( 16 y ) ... viewed 1675 times The following is crystal clear, cold, hence devoid of emotion. It's the truth.
If read with an open mind, it will help your outlook from here-on-out. This
is probably the only correspondence from me you'll get on this thread.
1. Your ego's in a pickle because you can not (won't be able to) make your
spouse choose between you and his daughter. You'll lose any which
way you look at it. He'll either tell you to take a hike or he'll separate
from her and later resent you. You need to chill out.
2. You're masking your control-freakishness with the word love.
You're telling us that these two people "desperately need love"
and You, the "love" giver is making a sacrifice and staying in
the home to provide it.
3. God is intelligence, and you're part of it, part of God.
God is not a man, God isn't even a BEING. God is Energy of sorts,
God is the Field, the Field is God, the Field is LOVE. You can not
get more love or less love, nor can you give love or take it away.
Because Love is God, is the Field and what you're doing now is
that you're putting obstacles between you and the inherent love
that you and these people can enjoy at all times.
Think of it as if YOU are a fish and LOVE is the water where you
are swimming in. It's all around you, it's where you live, and so, to
not be in touch with the water you're swimming in, you're getting
inside a "fish shelter", submarine whatever, where water won't touch
you. Now then, when you draw a parallel with the example I just gave
you, you can clearly see how it is only your desire for control that has
put a barrier between you and your family love.
There's no such thing as the girl's "desperate seeking love from her
birth mother" What does that even mean? You're telling yourself all these
stories that get more and more convoluted as the minutes go-by, and
you get more and more confused. In your writing you're telling us in so
many words that you're "the good guy," but indeed what you are is very,
very confused, and blinded, and I dare say, enraged.
God is intelligence, hence cold and has nothing to do with emotions.
Emotions are of the planet earth and needed in this planet. It goes
hand-N-hand with the ego, also needed for survival on planet earth.
HOWEVER, humans get in a pickle when the ego is in overdrive
and supersedes all intelligence and puts human lives in emotional
automatic pilot (which you're driving on, my friend). Emotions are
warm, hot even; the more convoluted your story (implosion), the
hotter it gets, to a degree that at some point something's gotta give
(explosion!!) and that's what it seems you're on the verge of. If you
don't balance it with cold, or intelligence, it's gonna happen and then
you'll look around and there'll be nothing left; Just you; and you're
gonna hit bottom, and only there you'll find the lesson that this
episode's trying to show you.
If you don't recognize (and separate) the intelligence from the
sheer emotions, there's no chanting that's gonna do the trick.
And don't even bother with "unconditional" love because at this
juncture you're in no position to even comprehend what
unconditional means in this context.
If there's any hope for you to stay married with this gentleman, you'll
have to suddenly, immediately grow up and recognize that you are #2.
His daughter is #1 and that is and will be the truth for as long as you,
meaning you and them, live on planet earth. This is the state of things
and the way things will remain and there's absolutely nothing you can
do about it. If you need to stay married you'll have to recognize that,
and accept it; you will not be able to stay in this particular marriage
or in any other marriage with a child from a previous one, without the
acceptance of that plain fact.
That will be the beginning of your understanding of unconditional love.
Most marriages ARE CONDITIONAL.
The marriages of most single people, meaning without a child from a
previous marriage, are conditional, and 98% of the way that a marriage
with a child from a previous marriage can succeed is only unconditionally.
You, Ms. Julia, given the telling letter you wrote to the forum, I doubt can
take on such herculean task at this time in your life. Unless of course
you meet the pre-condition of surrender to God, which is what this episode
is trying to teach you. For your own sake, do not attempt to row against
the current.
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