So YOU were the one who had that name!    Yes, I absolutely agree with you that people (generally men) say things they would not say in person.  BUT, everytime I bring that to their attention, they deny it.  But, I think they are lying.  Not many would put up with that kind of talk when they didn't know someone.  They would get slapped or have the police called on them, I am thinking.  Many men say they have to act that way because it is their nature and biology.  But, I say that mankind wants a more civilized society, so they are not going with the norms when they act that way.  Many blame women for their behavior.