- Attractive People by SqueakyClean
18 y
3,509 16 Messages Shown
Blog: Observations
I had a revelation (of sorts) on Friday. I am a caucasian female. I realized that of all the caucasian males I know or have even ever MET (famous people don't count), the vast majority are not very attractive. I could only think of a handful who are truly handsome and very attractive. Quite a few who are reasonably good looking although not particularly attractive, meaning "all right" and the rest (boatloads) are actually NOT good looking and NOT attractive. (All of this meaning physically, as an observation - of course when you know and like someone you don't really notice this).
I was almost flabberghasted. I had never noticed this before. Yes, most of them are nice guys, great guys, my friends or amicable acquantances. But they are not good looking. They are NOT physically attractive. Quite a few are actually repugnant.
Lest you think I live in Uglyville, I have traveled all over the world, have friends in many different cities, so this is a somewhat broad observation.
This isn't to bash on guys. But what are my chances of finding a guy to date and then marry? I can't think "EWWW" about someone I marry. I can't find his hands, or his teeth repulsive! So it looks like I might end up with someone of another race. I am particularly attracted to Asians. Eurasians are really good looking, too.
And what is the least attractive thing? An unhealthy guy. Sometimes they can't help it, and there are people who can love them anyway. But if they are very unhealthy, and on an unhealthy track, I don't think I could spend my life with them. Can I kiss someone with parasites and tons of fillings? Can I hold hands with someone who has clammy skin and a circulation problem? Can I spend time in close spaces with someone who emits lots of smelly gasses?
I don't think I can. And this eliminates so many men!
Am I a bad person? Where did this come from?
I am pretty confused right now. My head is spinning from noticing that there are so many men I know who aren't fun to look at, and I find the thought of touching them to be gross. There are some exceptions, don't get me wrong but... (And in case you are wondering, I'd rather be with a yucky guy than with any girl, I am NOT lesbian. Frankly I can just stay single until the right man comes along, even if that means NEVER.)
My cousin's wife sure is lucky! My cousin is one of the most attractive caucasians I have ever met, and a super great guy, too! She caught one of the FEW. (He is lucky as well - she is a great, fun, smart, beautiful and caring person).
It will be interesting to see what the future holds.
p.s. I know appearances are only skin deep, it's what is inside that counts, etc. That is a separate topic altogether, and important. I am addressing just one topic here, which is physical ATTRACTIVENESS.
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- venting is great by ren
18 y
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I sure hope you feel better. You remind me of myself right before I met my fiance. I was crying and whining that I'd never meet someone because dating is HELL in New York. I remember meeting my fiance for the first time. He was NOT the aryan nordic ideal but more he was NOT a metrosexual either. I rather date an ugly man who knows he's a man than a spineless loser. My fiance isn't ugly but he's TALL and he's got that classic Russian powerlifter look. No trendy girl I know would ever give him the time of day but he's a dream come true for me. The thing with looks is understandable. However, they may be looking at YOU the same way. It's a double edged sword.
I thought keeping a healthy lifestyle would be a big problem with him but the exact opposite is true. You sound like you're venting and I would too. It sucks ass to be single. I've been there. I had to walk away from my resentment about better looking females, guys chasing after blondes, guys chasing after this and that,etc. and decide that I'm NOT going to keep running after a man. THAT is what got me into trouble in the first place.
It may not be as bad as you think. Sit back and think about what you really want.
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- Re: venting is great by SqueakyClean
18 y
1,305
Ha ha ha...
Well I really wasn't venting, to be honest. I'm not upset - just surprised!
As another observation, there are a quite a lot of good looking girls out there, either very attractive or at least reasonably so. I am not jealous, I'm just sayin' ! We're lucky, we can wear makeup and such and that can really help! I like my looks so I am fine with that.
I guess I am looking (if I were looking) for someone that is metrosexual or close to it. A manly man is fine, but if he helps himself look good I sure don't mind. Tweezing a few hairs to eliminate a unibrow (not waxing the entire brows), manicured hands, hair gel, cool clothes - I don't mind! Not required, to be sure, but it is fine by me.
And I'm not really looking at this point in my life, anyway. I am just plain AMAZED to realize (eyes open everywhere I go these days) that most guys aren't good looking! I never noticed that before! I wasn't even thinking about it AT ALL, and I just woke up one morning with that realization in my mind! Out of nowhere, plain and clear!
Glad you found someone you are happy with. That is the important thing. Obviously they don't have to be a super hottie, as long as you are attracted to them that's all it takes.
I think my next post will be venting, but on a different topic.
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- I am right here.... by kerminator
18 y
1,307
Well I know your delimia... It is difficult to judge when there are so many faces on the media, these days... You need to look at the heart and soul of a man...
When I was a younger, I never really dated.... I went through life; just being myself; not knowing I was cute, but at least now I understand why women look at me... This is not to pump me up, but to say that there are a lot of nice looking and really quite nice men.... You need to be open to who GOD places in your pathway...
I was 24 years old in college, not dating... When my wife came in to the market I worked at part time, because her girl friend told her there was a cute guy there.. Well she got my attention in her short shorts, and ask if I knew anything about cars?? Mr Motor head himself... Of course, I did, so we went to look at one she wanted to buy....
She had left home, and after some tragic happenings in her life, set her life in God's hands... She was down and scared... Well when I came up to her house the next day, She was outside with her girl friend, and ran into the house, as I was coming up the front walk.... She said it was then that; she saw a bright light, and then heard " This is who you shall Marry" We were married three months later, and will celebrate our 40th anniversity... The rest is history, I did not have any idea about marriage, just going along fat, dumb and happy.... BTW I have never been fat....
You can look at my pics under: images, blogs, kerminator, and see for yourself.... This is not to say that I am or ever was the greatest thing to ever wear pants, or any such.... But even in my 60's; I still get looks from women, on the street and in the store...
So we know you can find a good looking guy too.... And there is one out there for you.... Prayer never hurts, seek your partner for life... He may be just down the street.... Don't do the bar or beach hang out thing or run around looking like some Saturday nite pick up gal... Just be your natural, sweet self and he will show up in your life...
Did not mean to butt into your life, advice is what I do best these days....
So living better than I deserve.... See Ya.. K
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- Re: I am right here.... by SqueakyClean
18 y
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Thanks for the advice and encouragement, Kermie.
I guess all it takes is one guy, the right guy for me!
Like I said, I'm not looking, and the whole idea of going out to look (especially in bar? bad idea) is rather silly to me.
I anticipate that when the right one comes along, God will let me know. Something like what you told about your wife, actually. Until then I'm not going to concern myself too much. :-)
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- Re: I am right here.... by kerminator
18 y
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Right on Lady.... I have noticed over the years that; things seem to happen for a reason under God's plan... In fact God's will is going forward wither we are in it or not... It is our job to be in the plan, if we can!! HUH!!
I will try to get some of this type examples up on blogs; so we can all share and experience it first hand... You may even know of some yourself...
Prayer and our attitude is still our best avenue to be in the will of God... I will place you in my prayers; for I am sure that there is a great guy out there for you... Ya you just might meet him in a store like my wife did...
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- Re: I am right here.... by SqueakyClean
18 y
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| That sounds like an interesting blog idea. Stories of how happily married couples met and fell in love/knew they were meant to be. Not all the long details (that would be called a romance novel, lol!) just the basics. I could share a few about my family members.
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- Re: I am right here.... by kerminator
18 y
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Great Lady:
What a wonderful idea you have about doing a romance blog... We can do this... lets get some notes and an outline.... We want to keep it simple on the blog so a book can follow.... What do you think?? Will get back with you on this...
I am writing my first non technical book this year and we could do another one on this idea too... I can get the cost down to appx, $1.50 ea. in quantity of 500... I have the funding necessary...
See ya... K
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- Re: I am right here.... by SqueakyClean
18 y
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That is an intriguing idea, but I am afraid writing isn't really my thing. This blog is already a pretty big undertaking!
I am actually co-writing a novel with a friend of mine, only I haven't written in months! I should get back to it, because it is really funny and has been taking great shape!
I still like the romance blog idea, though. You could certainly take it and run with it to expand it later.
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- Re: I am right here.... by rudenski
18 y
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| how do you get the cost down that low? I would love to know more.
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- sounds like by UserX
18 y
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a seinfeld episode!
Undatable!
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- A person turns
Beautiful.... by YourEnchantedGardener
18 y
1,531
Dear Squeaky,
My experience as one of the World's Greatest Lovers
for Mother Earth
is that a person turns beautiful when they are loved.
Most people would never imagine that a guy who
is 5'2" and can hardly walk straight could ever be attractive
to lots of women, but over the years I have
had some pretty beautiful women in my life.
My experience is that I become beautiful
when I am being loved.
The soul is very beautiful.
I have also experienced that when I truly
love, the woman I am with they become
beautiful.
I love the experience of photography where I
can show her how beautiful she is.
I have seen women lose lots of weight
when they are loved.
I have been with a woman who has an self image
of being not very attractive, but she is one of the most
beautiful women I have ever seen, especailly
with her clothes off. She often dresses down.
When she loves, she can
radiate the most incredible charm. She
always thought me beautiful as well
during the times when are energies connect.
By the way, here is something you inspired.
I share your interest in watching people grocery
shopping.
http://curezone.com/blogs/m.asp?f=92&i=1455
Your Enchanted Gardener,
Leslie
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- Re: A person turns
Beautiful.... by SqueakyClean
18 y
1,419
Yes, I do realize that. I was surprised to think about some friends I love. I always found them attractive. I realized the other day that, if someone didn't know them and just looked at them, they are actually quite plain or even ugly looking BUT I never noticed that!
I used to play a mental game of sorts. They say that everybody is loved by somebody else. I tried to figure out what was loveable about people. It's easy with most people, the challenging thing was for the worst-looking, most scary or pitiful people who are also strangers. I tried to figure out something good about them. Do they have a sense of humor? Kind eyes? Bashful and shy? until I could see something or at least guess! An interesting thing to do in public, trying to figure out what is loveable about a total stranger.
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