Hi i would just like to point out the obvious to you...Noone can control or have an effect on you without your conscent...You are your own person.You have to deprogramme yourself from your childhood,in childhood you relied on her as a parent and so their was little you could do to escape from anothers view, you are not there now and she can only effect you if you let her so stop letting her effect you.If need be dont have verbal communication and let her know you dont want to know.It isnt about her being psychic its about you showing her where your boundaries are..and when she steps on you ...
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I am having a conflict with myself.I have always been spiritual and believe in god but i havent been raised in a religious family although we say we are christians. I suppose i have the mindset of organised religion as more to do with mans rules than gods and the fact that im free spirited and have always sensed a presence but have never put any real grounding to it except that it is there has an influence too of course. The thing is i have been meeting a lot of christians on my path in life for some years and although i understand what they say and i have faith in god there are some thi ...
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Hi i had a sebacious cyst and i tried your castor oil remedy and i DIDNT work but i had it removed at hospital it was quite a large one and i saw no change in it at all, i had worn a plaster everyday all day and night zilch im afraid.   [End]
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Does anyone know anything about this.I am based in london well middlesex and am interested in regression as a means of releasing pent emotions or finding out about traumas and fears and releasing them.I dont know if this would help.I dont know about the past life issue but if it helps to allow fears or emotions to be looked at then i would like to try. any help would be welcome   [End]
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HI I have started a personal relationship with the universe, god or the spiritual energy that is everything. I am on a path of self discovery and have been having a lot of good things come into my life slowly.My life has had a lot of upheaval in the past yrs and i feel im breaking free from that and going on a different path i just hope it is the right one and what i really need are some words of encouragement. Or some help in connecting to god i suppose alternative ways that could benefit me and makeme a better person really.I am more spiritual than religious and i do believe in go ...
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Hi i am doing a lot of soul searching and my astro chart in http://www.astro.com has been very enlightening.I have the Sun in Leo and Moon in Virgo i am a Leo born August 5th 1971 3.05am Uk gmt.Does anyone know how i would balance my Leonine side with virgo as ive read that they conflict and unless i harmonise them it will be difficult to be happy.The thing is i feel this conflict very much and have done so for years swaying from demonstrative energetic happy leo to thoughtful doing for others intellingent virgo and feeling guilt for my exuberance and then feeling walked all over for doin ...
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HI i read you mail.I am 33 and have had some serious long term relationships and have gone thru a time of single dom as well.I think this is to do with your fear of finding someone better and not wanting to let go of the fantasy you have created in your head.I remember when i had had a few relationships and realised that you have to take a risk to meet someone new and see if you are compatible there is so many in the world that you are bound to come across another person you can be close to but it is hard work. I had met someone after long term relationships who had blown me away and i ...
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Hi just read your text.I must say i dont think this has anything to do with being christian.Its more to do with abstaining and celebacy. Your boyfriend first and foremost is a man and from experience if a man wants to abstain from sex he avoids contact and sometimes even women altogether. Heavy passionate petting well speaks for itself it is easier for you to go to that boundary and remain there because you seem to be in control of your sexual drives and that is your limit of how far you will go. Have you asked him how far he can go and be comfortable that he can control his arou ...
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Hi Owen I just read your message and it made my eyes fill with tears and touched my heart with warmth it was very emotional.I am on my own spiritual quest as well and it has lifted my heart to read about yours.I believe in God as the spiritual essence of all things the universe you might say.And i have started to really delve into my inner consciousness and speak with him and many small things have happened that little by little strengthen my resolve and faith in this energy people call God.I myself am a mere 33yrs old which means nothing in the sense of spiritualism as does the sense o ...
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Hi just answering your message didnt understand the abbreviations but i know what it is like to be isolated.Im in England outer london and i have travelled a lot so coming back has been hard.   [End]
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Hi just a reply to your message.You cant force someone to do something they dont like because you like to give it to him doesnt mean he likes it.But if it is very important to you then maybe you are not compatible it seems like it is so in the long run do you think this will fade or become more of a problem.The thing about being with someone is that you are totally compatible if it is important (no matter how trivial or not )then that should be something you shouldnt have to sacrifice.Its like if you were a boss and wanted someone who can type and speak french and answer the phone, and you ...
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I would not say most men are sexist pigs, i think you seem quite angry at them i hope your husband doesnt feel offended after all he is a man.I have been hurt by men but i wouldnt say that,it just that they havent been shown how there actions may affect others.But talking sexually I think that the first woman they have contact with has a responsibility to show this, its like a lot of things what you dont know you fear what you fear you try to dominate, intimidate or ridicule or belittle (as in treat with less respect than yourself).Respect should be for everyone.But in our society so many ...
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I get where your going.But then i got a bit lost in the end it started going on a completely different tangent.But you will probably see my point when you read my last reply to the previous message before yours.   [End]
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Well your message is a judgement of what you think im like,i dont show all my bits, i basically wear jeans and t shirts.So If i have to cover up (you mean hide myself)because another person cant control themselves, i would be wearing baggy jumpers and looking dawdy because someone else cant cope with female sexuality. Your explanation reminds me of why some Middle eastern men have there women wearing cloth over there whole body and head and face! As if the women should be ashamed to be women and have a sexuality!! Sorry but what you are infact saying is its a womans fault for being ...
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All my life i have felt that there was someone or let me say some energy with me and it has always been there and i know that.And even at the depths that is what keeps me here.Its something telling me it will be alright and i listen to that.Now i have got down but not out and i am making some rash decisions at the mo that are quite scary for me but i suppose deep down i know there is something.That ingrained belief keeps me here i think if i ever lost that feeling or belief i would no longer be here.   [End]
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God Bless you.This message describes exactly where i am and how i feel.thankyou for sharing it with all   [End]
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I have always been an emotional and sensitive person and know that things from my childhood and crisis events that have seemed to happen to me continuously have led to me being in the place i am now(depression).Its always been a companion of mine in varying degrees but now ive hit my early thirties its suddenly took me to an all time low.I have in the space of three months become someone i do not seem to recognise i looked in the mirror today and i look drawn and painstricken and i feel it.I have been at home and isolated myself so much that i hardly get phone calls.Its been hard as i lost ...
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Yeah im starting to see someone and thanks i will keep that in mind.I need some support right now i suppose i have forgotten about myself for too long.   [End]
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Thanks yeah its very true.I have read some myself not professionaly but for personal interest.I dont really think i had much of a relationship with my dad who was selfish and self involved really.   [End]
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Thanks god you people are great!Im really very very glad for this support.Yeah i have met people while out and i havent really gone out much in the last year and a half i dont enjoy it anymore which is a shame i used to just enjoy having fun.Your right i have been in a depression and did start taking anti depressants but i recently just stopped as i dont feel they are really making me feel better and i dont want mood changing chemicals effecting me so ive decided to trust my own body to sort it out so im on this emotional rollercoaster for a bit and now im gonna try some cognitive therapy ...
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wow! That was straight to the point (bit like a slap around the face) thanks for that.I think ive been wallowing for too long.So im going on a date tommorrow huh lets see how that goes..?ok   [End]
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Another thing ask yourself what did she get from these other men that she hasnt obviously got from you?If she got it from you she wouldnt look for it elsewhere.You said that you think they didnt have sex then its emotional support she needs and maybe there are things she hasnt told you about herself and she feels she cant let her know that you are not just interested in having sex and are interested and concerned about her feelings her as a person.I suggest you have a lot of masturbation in private and start doing exercise to relieve your frustration and then make a sacrifice to be there f ...
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Hi Im a woman and to me it sounds like your wife has some issues with herself and men usually when a person has issues like this they are taken out on another.Has it started after the birth of your children this can be a trigger or was she like this before and how has the dynamics of your relationship changed do you treat her the same as before the kids or have other things happened in the relationship that have added strain. If you really love her and i dont know but it seems she needs some sort of proof of this to me and maybe pushing you to cheat so you can acknowledge her fear of that ...
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Well a lot of women dont like the taste of semen.Have you tasted your own i suggest you put it in a cup and taste it and then see.And the flip side do you like to taste women?If so then i suggest you do that more and then they may reciprocate   [End]
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in response to your message how did they mangage to get a guy worthy enough to play jesus then?   [End]
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I have read some of the replies you have got and im not sure but i get the distinct impression a lot of them are from guys but the first one is infact the most realistic and as a woman who knows women and thinking that your quite young.yes it is very possible that the hymen can be broken before sex from sport or activity not related to sex it just depends how the person is made really.I know one of my ex’s who had sex and ripped his fore skin accidentally ok this was during sex but what i mean is these things happen the body is prone to things tearing and if she isnt a virgin why are you s ...
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Your message a reply to my message was truly from a good person who has been in situations beyond your control.Now as you said to me...yes to h*#l with what other people think.I think you have had enough from this woman who is meant to be your mother i think she doesnt deserve to have a daughter like you. you were a gift to her and she did not see it because she is wrapped up in some cycle of torment.She is caught in her own world of abuse and unwittingly you were dragged into it by association and being a child you had no control,but now you are an adult and its time to think of the ones ...
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Hello thankyou for the reply to my message and i hope you are doing better, i dont really know what to write but i hope you are coping.god bless   [End]
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Thankyou for you message it was very good to hear another opinion.My parents are not around any more they have passed on.And i am trying to rebuild a relationship with my sister but she does have the attitude of just get on with life sometimes and tries to be understanding but i dont know if she really understands.It is nice to hear from someone like you because you have a lot more experience and i agree with a lot of what you have said. God bless   [End]
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I have been suffering from depression for a long time i think as a teenager.I am now 33 and it has been affecting me on and off and ive been running away from it and trying to get on with life like a normal person but i cant seem to, it has caused me to loose jobs to loose contact with people and to be abandoned by partners in relationships which has led to an affirmation of not being worthy of love.At times when i cant cope i feel like a failure, useless and unloved.This rejection came early i lived with a depressed mother who never showed her love openly and sometime i felt didnt like me ...
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I have been suffering from depression for a long time i think as a teenager.I am now 33 and it has been affecting me on and off and ive been running away from it and trying to get on with life like a normal person but i cant seem to, it has caused me to loose jobs to loose contact with people and to be abandoned by partners in relationships which has led to an affirmation of not being worthy of love.At times when i cant cope i feel like a failure, useless and unloved.This rejection came early i lived with a depressed mother who never showed her love openly and sometime i felt didnt like me ...
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