I once heard a very wise preacher say concerning abortion, ”It’s not the babies we should worry about. It’s the women that went through the trauma of abortion. They need our love and concern. They need healing and restoration. The babies are safe with God.” Now is the time for you to take care of yourself. All of these wonderful words will help you I’m sure. Feel hugged and loved by all of us. We are the Father’s arms. Sometimes I picture myself curled up on Jesus’ lap. He comforts and understands our hurts. As far as you not being repentent - it seems to me you are r ...
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I’m so sorry that you find yourself in this position. It is one of lifes most difficult situations and decisions to make. My advice to you is make sure you think this through, and discuss every possible option with your boyfriend. This is not a decision to be taken lightly - as it can have the power to affect the rest of your life. If you have an abortion, please be prepared to be on an emotional roller-coaster. Some women are hit worse with the emotions than others - make sure you have your support network closely knit for awhile. The other thing is to research all health risk ...
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I was very reluctant to comment on this site...I came accross this just looking for stories of someone who may be in my shoes. Today was the day where all of it hit, and though I would rather leave out all the details (becuase I am sure the emotions are the same no matter what the situation may be), we found out we were pregnant and by no means is it condusive in our lives right now. Fortunatly I have a supportive family and supportive man in my life, but this decision isn’t coming easy to the both of us. We know it is best to abort the baby, but being raised Catholic we can’t help but fee ...
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Thank you so much for this good news. I’ve been praying for you since I first read your post Sunday morning. This is the best news I’ve gotten all week. I’m very happy for you. God bless you.   [End]
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I’m also very happy that you spent the weekend thinking it over and came to your own decision. Be strong, and don’t let anyone make you vulnerable. We’ll always be here to lend a listening ear and advice if you request it. You are doubly blessed! How far along do you think you are? Check out all your options regarding hospital birth vs. home birth, doctor vs. midwife. There is a pregnancy/childbirth forum here: http://www.curezone.com/forums/f.asp?f=60&t=29596 There you will find various questions with various answers. Take care of yourself and get plenty of rest, while ...
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thanks to everyone for their words whether they were kind of just telling me how it is. however I decided to have my second child. I spent all weekend thinking about it and looking at my beautiful daughter and there is no way i would ever survive an abortion or adoption. The father will still be in the picture since this is what he wanted so i am not worried about it anymore. everything will be okay. my mom on the other hand....whole other story, i will tell her when i am showing lol. thanks again for everyones support...now i just have to tell my traveling buddy that there will b ...
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There are so amny childless couples who are waiting to adopt a baby. It is not an easy thing to do, but if you want to do it for the best interest of the baby that is a wonderful way to go. Someone in my family was a adopted, had a wonderful life, and later in life was able to find his birthmother, who always missed him, but she knew it was the right thing to do. What happened to her was simular as your situation. Already one child and financially not able to support a 2nd child. Did you see the programs on tv, that you now even can find people that are willing to keep you up to date abou ...
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Dear Friend - Thank you for sharing your story. You’re obviously in a difficult situation, and one of the best things you could have done for yourself is to ask for help. You feel betrayed. It’s likely you hooked up with the wrong guy. And you feel totally unprepared for this. But having an abortion doesn’t solve any of these problems. However it is that you got here, you are now here, and you have to take responsibility for your actions. I hope I don’t sound cruel, but that’s how it is. You are now the mother of two children, and regardless of this guy’s present or former actions, ...
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17172: You are sweet, and I thank you for your kind words and affirmation. It’s a hard call, and a hard situation. But I must make a couple of points here. #1 Having an abortion after having one child already, will be 50x harder than if you had no experience of child rearing. #2 Why on earth is okay for a man to have multiple children with multiple partners and he can easily go on and find girlfriends and even a wife. However a woman is looked down upon when she is a single mother? Can anyone say double standard? Listen if you find yourself in a hard situation, with an u ...
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I’m a man, but I’ve known women who have aborted, and I know it’s not something they can do and then just go their merry way. It seems to haunt them for years. I am pro choice, but I have seen the hurt that a woman feels too.   [End]
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Pregnant at 16 is not the same as pregnant at 27. If you don’t marry this creep (yes he’s a creep), will you be able to find a husband when you are 35 and trying to date again? The more kids you have and the longer you wait, the harder it will be to date and find a real husband for the family you want. A lot of guys don’t mind a 10 year old kid when dating, but another newborn will not be conducive to seeking a lifetime partner. Don’t make the same mistake twice. Did I say your 10 year old daughter is a mistake? NO. Your 10 year old daughter needs stability, not a lying manipulative ...
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When I met my wife she had a two year old daughter that she was bringing up on her own. There was no father in the picture at all. She had it hard but it was good that she would not give up the child. I thought alot of her for that. We fell in love and married and I adopted my first child. She is 22 now and has a nice husband that I love. They have two children. They call me Pa Pa. My sister inlaw had a few abortions and she has had bad feelings years later and has had miscarriages. I would say you should keep it and your heart will thank you.   [End]
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Wow! Tough call girlfriend! I guess from now on you’ll have to up your conviction a notch by making that no sex with anyone other than your husband, not just no babies with anyone other than your husband. Ovbiously the first isn’t bullet proof. But what’s done is done and the fear and anxiety you are now feeling is enough. The majority of people here will not tell you to go ahead and have an abortion, but if you go to a pro-choice clinic, then you will meet with their approval. The thing to do now is think really hard not about you, but about the life you are carrying within you, you ...
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I’m deeply sorry that you are in this situation. No one can tell you what to do, this is your decision and only you can make the call on what you will do. However I can tell you that if you have an abortion you will probably regret it for years to come. Especially, in your circumstance when you already have one child. As you will know first hand that you are missing out on the joy that comes with having a child. Yes, there is a lot of headaches with childrearing, but the joy far out weighs the headaches! As well as the emotional turmoil that comes with abortion there also comes a ...
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I am a 27 year old mother of a 10 yr old. I had her when i was 16 and abortion was just so wrong i couldn’t go through with it. I always told myself that I will not have another child until I am married, I just couldn’t imagine having 2 kids by different fathers and the second on not my husband...i have been keeping to that way of thinking until now. today i find out I am expecting. Crazy story. Dating this guy for only 3-4 months, great guy he has 2 children takes care of them, i mean he has them more than his ex-wife does, great dad. he told me one night that he had been snipped, v ...
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”My belief is that we only abort bodies, not souls .. that the soul due to be born would find another host if they are meant to be born. ” True, yet, you wouldn’t say that on murdering people: ”we can only murder bodies, not souls..” We are not gods, and we aren’t allowed to end lives, no matter where is the person is: in womb our outisde of it.   [End]
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I too had a similar experience. I used herbs - Vitamin C, Black Cohosh, hops and Pennyroyal tea to try and produce an abortion. For 3 weeks I took the herbs and nothing happened. I agonized over the dicision of abortion. It was not an easy decision to make at all, and I thought it would be. I never told the father - he was a one night stand but I have seen him since. I just don’t feel any reason to inflict that kind of pain on someone, what’s done is done. Truthfully, after the abortion all I felt was relief. That was a year ago and I still only feel relief and am sure that I made th ...
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I’m also sorry to hear of your plight.  Even if your abortion experience was smooth and non-emotional.  It is still a hard decision to make.  And, not the most pleasant physical experience.  Many women do not have such a non-emotional abortion experience.  Many women have felt pressured to have abortions, or had severe emotional or physical trauma following the abortion.   So consider yourself one of the ”lucky” women ! If you ever find yourself with regret, sadness or unanswered questions you will always find someone here who cares!   [End]
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Two weeks ago i had an abortion which my partner pushed me in to. We already had a child and our financial situation and relationship was not good. Anyway, after agonising over my decision for 4 weeks (the time it took for my appointment at the hospital) i realised that far from being a villain my partner was actually right. He was doing the responsible thing and he was thinking of the child. It was breaking his heart as well as mine and i could see that. I realise that my story is a little different from yours as i was already blessed with having a beautiful child. But ask yourself how yo ...
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I had an abortion two weeks ago and i too chose not to tell anyone other than my partner and one close friend. I have to say that confiding in my friend was the best decision i ever made as it has allowed me to discuss my feelings and overcome any guilt. Although i will never reveal my secret to anyone else, and i think that each persons reasons for non disclosure are personal, i would advise you to confide in somebody and talk about your abortion openly with a trusted person. I am sure that this will help you enormously, probably more than than you realised it ever would. I am so glad tha ...
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I was saddened to read of your plight. Please do not subject yourself to this trauma by trying to end the pregnancy yourself. You may find that the result is that you end up with a baby that you never planned on having! I had an abortion two weeks ago and had previously tried to end the pregnancy by hitting myself in the stomach. I was afraid to have an abortion and agonised over my decision until the day of my appointment. But after the procedure, much to my surprise i felt no pain and no emotion other than absolute overwhelming relief that everything was okay. I wasnt sure what to expect ...
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Don’t lose hope! Even if you feel all alone, that doesn’t mean that you are. God is always there waiting to hear from us. He loves you, no matter what you’ve done. You are valuable and so is your baby! For the nearest Crisis Pregnancy Center call 1-800-395-HELP. You can also go to their website to find a local pregnancy center www.pregnancycenters.org. Hope this helps. Jenn   [End]
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Don’t lose hope! Even if you feel all alone, that doesn’t mean that you are. God is always there waiting to hear from us. He loves you, no matter what you’ve done. You are valuable and so is your baby! For the nearest Crisis Pregnancy Center call 1-800-395-HELP. You can also go to their website to find a local pregnancy center www.pregnancycenters.org. Hope this helps. Jenn   [End]
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In a case like this I would suggest that you have an ultrasound to see what kind of health the baby is in. If you have decided to continue with the pregnancy start taking B vitamins and at least 1mg of folic acid per day. Also look at taking Red Raspberry leaf in tea or decoction form. Do you have someone close to you that you trust with your life? A friend that has not motives? If so turn to that person for help and support. Please also seek out a Crisis Pregnancy Centre - there you will find love, support and hope. They will point you to all sorts of resources to help you in ...
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I dont think in your case that the abortion was a bad thing. Everyone’s situation is different. That unborn child would have lived a life of Hell with that guy as a father. -- and yes, you would have been unhealthily tied to him. You did what you felt was the best thing to do under your circumstances. I also feel that many souls are reborn again if there is a miscarriage or abortion- so that your unborn child may have needed to go through this experience of living in the womb temporarily- then die and go back to God again. There may have been something his/her soul needed to lear ...
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I don’t see that anything you have done is harmful to your baby. I would be glad to talk with you. Do you want to email me privately or talk through this site? I am a woman who had an abortion and I am a nurse. I remember feeling so alone when I was pregnant. I was trying just to make it through nursing school and there was no one safe to talk to because pregnancy meant that I would have to leave school (things are different now). I don’t know if you had any other posts on this site or not but I only saw this one and am new to the site. So, if you’ve answered these questions, forgive ...
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Do not ever think you are being punished, by the blood of Jesus we are forgiven of sins--past, present, and future. God loves us supremely, and contrary to what some people think he is not laughing at us when we are in pain and hurting. It hurts Him to see us in pain and He has sent us the ultimate Comforter. I have had liver problems, and still have to cleanse my liver regularly. For the first 3 1/2 years we were married we did not have any children, but after doing Dr. Schultz’s colon and liver cleanse then taking his Female formula I know become pregnant very easily. My first pregn ...
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To lost and lonely, I, too, once felt like I had caused major birth defects when I was pregnant for the first time many, many years ago. And I used this to rationalize an abortion that has impacted me psychologically for too many years. I had been drinking alcohol during the first few weeks of pregnancy, and even though I did not know much about development, I did know that alcohol was supposedly harmful to a developing ”fetus”. At this point, I would encourage you to let your baby develop as it will. If it is totally unviable, you will probably miscarry. There have been many i ...
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so i found out 4 weeks ago that I was expecting, we decided to not go through with it, a decesion that I still wave back and forth on. I began tinctures of pennyroyal, and black/blue cohosh, large doses of vitamin C, ginger, and parsley inside my vagina. it has been three weeks since I began with no luck- the pregnancy is advancing- with morning sickness, tender brests, emonital rollercoaster, all the symptoms...I’m afraid I’ve caused major birth defects, and the only route to take now would be an abortion....any advice? suggestions? I need support and people to talk with- I really have ...
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I am very sorry to hear about your situation. I have a question if you don’t mind me asking - can you not have children because of complications or have you had a hysterectomy? Sincerely, Erika1   [End]
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Illness can through off the female horomaones needed for pregnancy to happen. But there is always hope!!! I have a friend who has very cystic ovaries and getting pg was an uphill battle. BUT!!! She started getting treatment for insulin resistance (she’s very overweight) and was pg just 5 weeks later!! So miricles DO happen!! Keep hope in your heart. This is a physical thing. And just as my friend found her answer, so will you. And never forget, God’s with you through all of this! He loves you and will never, ever turn you away. God bless.   [End]
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Many unusual things can happen to us during this lifetime, you must look back though if you had, had that child at 15 your life would not be what it is today. I’m sorry that you can not have children now that must be tough for you. One thing that may help you overcome this is a remarkable oil blen by Gary Young called Trama Life. Check out youngliving.com my ID# is 794726 This will help in the release of the negative enegies/thoughts that are obviosly still fully alive and thriving in you, this will help you to become closer to your child when you get one and possibly help mend past tide ...
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If you felt like it, it may benefit you to read page 1 of this forum. I have had many losses in my life and believe me your feelings are normal and you are not alone. I recall thinking my first child was murdered because I had an abortion. But then I had friends that had many abortions and their children were alive. I don’t need advice this was all 20 years ago. I m/c in June and of course, all this old stuff comes back. Every new death in our lives brings up old ones. Ask any hospice nurse. Life is a journey and as we go along we learn deeper things about the stuff we thought we ha ...
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You’ll be fine, remember and repeat to yourself when in doubt, ”all is well and as it should be”. Go see a gyno for your own sense of relief to ease the worrying. I recall a friend that had numerous abortions in school starting in the 8th grade, it was her birth control. Today she has 3 grown children. My niece has had multiple abortions and multiple m/c’s and she has a child today. The term for a spontaneous m/c and d&c and abortion, is all together abortion. I’ve had one abortion (mechanical), one spontaneous abortion (m/c), in my chart it says 2 abortions. I was fairly far alon ...
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Here is a link you could go to : Counselling Care Centre Counselling Care Centre UK Locations   [End]
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I am in England, Im not sure we have places to go like that. We probably do, but I don’t think they are called the same as in the States.   [End]
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You are more than welcome to share here. We will offer support and advice you need it. Please, know that you are not alone and many women keep this a secret part of their lives. However you don’t have to. There are many support groups for women who have been affected by abortion. Consider this one of them. Why do you think you decided to share with us? Was anything imparticular provoking you to do so? We are here to listen! Warm Regards, Ev   [End]
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You are more than welcome to share here. We will offer support and advice you need it. Please, know that you are not alone and many women keep this a secret part of their lives. However you don’t have to. There are many support groups for women who have been affected by abortion. Consider this one of them. Why do you think you decided to share with us? Was anything imparticular provoking you to do so? We are here to listen! Warm Regards, Ev   [End]
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You are not stupid. Please don’t think that way. And you are also not being punished for having an abortion. Many, many women go on to have succesful pregnancies after having abortions. Don’t give up hope! I would think that after having severe health problems your body is probably still in a healing process. It takes time, and you are still young, getting pregnant may still happen. What were you using for birth control? Sometimes it takes awhile for our bodies to become fertile after using birth control pills or shots. Keep in mind that asking your physician or OB/GYN for ...
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Hi Griffiths, I am glad that you got your health problems straigthened out. I can only speculate about the outcome of carrying a baby with a liver tumor. Your symptoms sound like classic Post Abortion Syndrome to me. I suffered from it for too many years. The place where I got help and counseling was The Hope Clinic for Women and sometimes the Crisis Pregnancy Center. You might ask your OB if he/she knows of a counselor who does post abortion counseling in your area if these associations are not accessible to you.   [End]
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I had an abortion in 1992 I have never told anyone until now, here on this forum. I guess my secret is out now.   [End]
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In 2001, only 6 months after being with my boyfriend I was booked in for a laperoscopy because I was having severe (what I thought at the time were..) gynaecological problems, they had been going on for about 3 years prior to our meeting. 2 weeks before the procedure I found out I was pregnant. I had to come to the decision that I could go ahead with a pregnancy with a man I didn’t know that well, or finally find out what was wrong with me. I was scared and chose to have the termination and the laperoscopy procedure at the same time. Unfortunately the laperscopy didn’t show anything up ...
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hello, I believe that you are right about doctors passing judgement and feeling that they have the right to. Maybe they lecture you or they do not give you the very best treatment. It is disgusting. I witnessed subtle instances like that when I worked in Gynecology ward in college. Do to their religious believes or cultural beliefs, people make bringing a baby into the world, the most hideous, shameful crime!! Is that what religion is for? Is that what Jesus wanted his Christian /Catholic Followers to do!! When he forgave criminals, prostitutes, greedy, and sick...etc... S ...
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I would second Ev’s suggestion of Dr. Schultz’s Female Formula, it is wonderful. I have taken it much myself. And get pregnant easily! The Don Quai in it is especially good for healing the uterus. A lady in Texas, Bonnie, had endemodrosis (Sp?) and her doctor told her she could never have children. She started taking large amounts of Don Quai and several months later became pregnant with twins, carried them full term and walked into the doctor’s office to show him what he said she could never have! He was stunned to say the least. Best of luck to you, and as Ev said--do not worry. Worry an ...
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Many women feel un-forgivable after having an abortion, and unfortunately this un-forgiveness can last for years. For some reason because of our maternal makeup we feel condemned by our choice and a lack of forgiveness towards our self. I want you all to know that you can forgive yourself, it is very real possibility. Not only that but the very forgiveness I speak about will also enrich your life because you will cease to live under the clouds of condemnation. Unfortunately self-condemnation and forgiveness are closely tied together. I know a lot of women, react with a skeptical a ...
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Talk about HOPE!!!!!! That’s an amazing story and thank you for it!!! I really feel hope.....I am smiling....God willing I will be blessed with little feet too. Thank you so much!   [End]
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You are more than welcome to email me...just click on the link contained within this message that says ”send email to Ev” Blessings!   [End]
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Ev, I have a question not related to this particular forum. May I email you? Lorelei   [End]
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My girlfriend had three abortions when she was younger and was able to ultimately carry two babies full term, then had C-sections. She did not have any miscarriages that I know of. She told me one time that she thought her mother had had as many as five abortions as a young girl in Cuba where her mother, my girlfriend’s grandmothter, had prostituted her. She then ended up having three children after coming to America.   [End]
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