Date:   9/5/2007 6:18:06 PM ( 17 y ago)
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Tough love is an expression used when someone must treat another person harshly or sternly in order to help them in the long run.  Some of us simply didn't know how else to effectively respond to you.

"All I see them doing is making an attachment that will eventually hurt you."

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"I view intimacy as a trick to get you hooked on something that will eventually hurt you. I know damn well if I love him he'll be gone with someone else. Happens every time."

Well, this kind of proves you were taking us for a ride with your original post, then, doesn't it?

"As long as I don't love him I have a pretty good life but I know darn well if I start to love him he'll be gone."

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"I'm content on the inside knowing when he does leave it won't hurt."

You know what they say:  "Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all." 

"But I had 8 good years."

Hey, longer than some cars last:  Time to get out there and kick some new tires (and I do mean kick).

"And I'm pretty sure if he does leave he'll leave me in pretty good shape fiancially."

If he knew all this (that honesty thing I mentioned), he might have second thoughts on that.

"You would have saved yourselves a lot of heartache and tears if you hadn't tried to love them and be intimate"

Well, I had to be sure, but now I am pretty convinced;  You are exhibiting sociopathic personality traits:  http://curezone.com/blogs/m.asp?f=1184&i=163 (this isn't really for your info, though, because if you were one, you would not understand it;  It's more for the readers of your post so that perhaps they can make some sense out of it).

"He says he's got a perfect wife except for the intimacy thing."

Well, he is wrong.  

"So I don't know if I want to go down that road."

Oh, so now you don't know?  Which is it?

"Allthough he has said that if it doesn't work out with me he'll never have another woman the rest of his life."

See, when you say things like this, it leads me to believe that you are hiding something from us.  Something just doesn't sound quite right. 

"I won't have all the heartache you people have either."

Oh yes you will.  Heartache comes in many forms.  Unless you are a sociopath, then you have no conscious and wouldn't have to worry about it.  They try to convince others of odd behavior that goes against societal norms, which is what you have been doing, so I am suspicious.  I think you need a mental health exam. 

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