Date:   7/2/2007 11:50:45 AM ( 17 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=911002

Here's the link to ALL plasticats posts: if you read them all, I think you'll see a different picture:
//www.curezone.org/forums/s.asp?f=762&ob=d&c=0&t=150&m=plasticat


...or perhaps you'll still see the same picture. :/

Our ages and societal influence obviously vary quite a bit. While I understand that facial scarring can be perceived in these ways:

--angry or self pitying at times...A disfigurement like this is a very heavy weight for a young pair of shoulders to carry... you were pretty harsh and judgemental.... also suffering in a very personal and intense way of his own....Seriously, the guy is disfigured by a condition that is erupting all over his skin... His inner self esteem must be shattered. I think he's holding up amazingly well... ----

...I come from a totally different mindset. To encourage (even 'reward') self-pity or mental focus on the condition, in -any- condition of ill health by reinforcing believed/perceived "lies" (that facial/ Acne scarring is a disfiguring disability, worthy of intense suffering and shattering of self-esteem) is the anti-healer - in a VERY real way. I come from the era of children whose mothers took thalidomide; my husband is Vietnam Veteran; my paths have taken me amongst para/quadripeligics, work at Head Start (seeing all manner of abuse done to wee ones); I worked at Hospice and watched people pull cancer tumors off their faces/body, lay screaming/writhing in pain, etc - the difference between a true disability & life-altering disfigurement and facial acne/scarring is substantial.

But even with a brutal,severe dis-ease or disability, focusing upon it, dwelling upon every symptom, scar, pain, tumor or even lack of limbs goes totally against curing and healing. Health is more than a bodily condition, it is a state of mind. Think of those that have had limbs blown off, unable to walk, talk, even breathe on their own that have gloriously surmounted and overcome their despair. I'm sure they might actually be 'harsh' and judgemental' to plasticat. I was simply pointing out a VERY real truth:

--If you allow facial eruptions and scarring to ruin your life, that's your choice. It's a sad choice, but it's YOUR choice...millions of people have suffered far worse and done far better.--

(Btw, "judgemental" would have been something like: "you're a total loser; with your attitude you have no reason to live". What I stated was simply a truth. There's a huge difference between identifying and stating a negative/harmful truth, and being judgemental. Think of Jesus -or Ghandi- neither were judgemental, but both found the need to identify the truth of the realities they wanted to heal/change, BEFORE that healing could occur. Many times, one must solidly 'identify the negative' in order to remove it)


Stress, anxiety, despair, frustration and focus upon the illness seriously & negatively impact the body's ability to heal. The mind and thought process is HUGE in this regard. We've all seen and heard the stories of those that 'ignore' their dis-ease, laugh it away, get down to the nitty-gritty of healing with a positive attitude, and hence cure themselves of the most major of dis-eases. And we've seen the opposite - folks dwelling & ruminating on their symptoms while they worsen, exhibiting fear of their symptoms and despair at the hopes (and reality) of healing - that gradually become of a victim of their own thinking - NOT a dis-ease that couldn't be cured.

I do understand (even respect) your response and opinion - it's very typical of the younger mindset (I'm pushing 50, husband is older); it's typical of more urban areas, and those whose older influences (parent/grandparents) didn't fight through the Depression with a very real fear of actual starvation for themselves, children and livestock. Societal 'belief' has changed drastically in the last century. What is now considered brutally judgemental or harsh - was once simply considered the stating of a truth that desperately needed to be said. When something adverse comes our way, we have choices: Deal with it, heal it, live with it, or despair/wallow in it - choosing the despair/wallow option WILL create more 'adverse something' AND negatively impact our belief for all future adversities.

A physician, healer or someone that's attempting to assist someone to heal should 'First, do no harm'. In my life experiences of helping hundreds of people to overcome their physical/mental illnesses and societal disabilities, allowing & encouraging self pity and despair (in any condition), is definitely 'doing harm'. That's something I know not only from my experience, but from the teachings of great holistic healers and powerful spiritual leaders.


 

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