Date:   6/16/2007 8:51:59 AM ( 17 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=897939

Typhonblue, my post with regard to your "opinion" was made in utter frustration.

You often have many helpful things to say, but, for some reason, this issue really burned you. The desire to support the abuser is natural if you, yourself, were once an abuser and had found healing. However, it may be that there are some really deep issues that you might want to consider addressing that surface when you're considering a specific situation. Yes, there are two sides to each story, and yes, this woman's husband is hurting, but she wasn't discussing his pain - only HE can do that and it doesn't look as if he has any intention of doing so, anytime soon.

Although it is a very strong temptation, we must avoid placing OUR opinions ahead of the raw and tattered emotions of someone who is in dire need of help. Internet Forums only allow for a very short and incomplete arena to offer help and guidance. We can only speak from what WE know, personally. Saying something like, "If it were me, I would consider....." or, "I once felt the same way and I got through it by ......" is completely appropriate. If we have not had the training or education to allow for a personal assessment, we should NEVER give in to that temptation because we don't know what we're doing or the harm we could inflict. In a Forum situation, we do not have the benefit of eye contact, physical language, or vocal inflections, and if we are not very careful in how we present our ideas, opinions, and feelings, we can do even greater damage to the person seeking help.

I apologize for stating that I would not read or respond to another post of yours - it was childish and there's no excuse for allowing my irritation to override common sense and courtesy.

Best wishes to you.
 

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