Date:   6/16/2007 1:23:33 AM ( 17 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=897792

When things got bad, and she walked out, it's not like he was spending his time thinking how to put things in order again. He actually went strait to a strip joint! Now that may mean nothing to you, but for me, and I am also a father and a husband, going to a strip joint is not "just fun", it is the last thing someone who is going through separation would do. Maybe not against any law, but it's akin to going for a big party a day after your wife has a bad car accident. Just doesn't give an impression he cares for her, and I am sure, that's the case.

You're right about that one.

Now, since you seem to be diving so deep into things untold, why don't you try to see if you are perhaps identifying with this man as you are quite persistent in trying to defend his actions. You wouldn't do it if you didn't recognize a familiar pattern.

I suppose I feel I've been forgiven so much more then this guy, mostly because I'm a woman.

However, I don't think I'm trying to defend his actions so much as understand them. And I got the impression that someone thought this was a salvagable relationship. It could only be salvagable if there is some basis for common understanding. And if there was _some_ mutuality to it, otherwise what could the OP change to alter the outcome? Nothing. Might as well stay away and spare any potential damage if your presence or absense means nothing to his recovery.


 

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