Date:   6/15/2007 9:57:20 PM ( 17 y ago)
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Typhon, this thread has now Officially spiralled down into the "Typhon's Got The Answers Show."

This woman came to THIS forum seeking help and reasonable suggestions. You have not offered a SINGLE sound, reasonable, rational, or practical suggestion other than for her to remain with someone who obviously doesn't have HIS best interests in mind, his wife's best interests in mind, and (ESPECIALLY) his children's best interests in mind.

Again - where do you get off playing "Devil's Advocate" with someone's emotions?

First of all, I think I said repeatedly that if he's destructive she should leave and, if she wants, help him from afar without getting her finances mixed up.

I'm presenting a possible alternative point of view - his. It's not necessary to consider it accurate or useful or relevant.

What are your qualifications? Any experience in counseling others with regard to relationship issues? Any experience assisting women and their children in ESCAPING a violent domestic situation? Any experience in finding LEGAL AID for a woman who's spouse has gambled or drank his way into JOINT BANKRUPTCY? I have had that experience and then some, and you're getting your control kicks by attempting to control this thread. Indeed, your refusal to recognize the boundaries of this Support Forum, and your veiled agenda has jeopardized your own credibility. As of this instant, I will no longer read, or respond to, any post that bears your Curezone ID.

I'm sure you're more experienced then I am in those issues. To be true, I've only experienced the reverse. Male family and friends who are abused by their wives and mothers. I don't know how to help them at all except to tell them that it isn't cool when their female relatives/lovers attack them with knives or hit them. It's actually a source of intense frustration for me, particularly in the case of one of my uncles whom I love dearly being married to a woman who beats him up. I don't even know how to begin to help him, none of my family does.

I'm not sure where you're coming from with the control issue. I have a very different point of view, but that's it. I don't expect people to consider it the gospel truth or even something they should entertain seriously.

My _opinion_ is, when people have problems, they shouldn't automatically be labled the bad guy. Even when they do bad things. Often it seems to be motivated by fear and confusion. God knows my husband could come on this forum and tell some tales about me and my behavior. Which I am ashamed of, and I'm forever grateful he had the perserverence to work through it with me.

And I could tell some tales about how I've been treated in the past (and I have). But I don't want to feel like a victim, or feel vindicated that other people agree that the people who've hurt me in the past are abusers. I saw what was behind the abuse and it was just more pain. They were fellow sufferers too.






 

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