Date:   6/4/2007 9:24:48 AM ( 17 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=886948

Hi
I am 25y old, I am married and currently living in Turkey. We are only here for 4 months and dont have any friends here. I find it difficult to communicate with my friends regarding this issue, because I get the response "oh, shame my angel" or "dont worry things will work out".
I am writing because my heart hurts very badly. I am not happy in my relationship, but my husband is a wonderful wonderful man, he is so caring and loving. I love him but just not in a romantic way. It feels as if I am married to my best friend. And my mother always said to me, if she could give me one piece of advice, is that your marraige is more likely to last if you marry your best friend rather than someone you are in love with. Well, I dont know why, but I feel empty and lost in this relationship, I feel that my partner does not understand me...and I just feel like I want to escape from everything. Because now our families are involved. My parents are Christian and they love him, they absolutely adore him, they are putting so much pressure on me to make this relationship work.
I have communicated and we have discussed this issue for 1 1/2 now...but still it has not changed.
We have only been married for 2y and only knew each other for 1y before we got married. I know that this is most likely the result of marrying someone who you dont really know. The truth is, he was the first/only guy I ever slept with and this made me very attached to him.
The thing is, I have been lying to myself, I have been telling myself that I want to be in this relationship and that things will work out. But I cant do it anymore, I just cant continue being together.
It feels as if I am going to hurt so many people around me. My husband, my parents, his parents...just so so many peopel. I dont know which is worst, to just hurt yourself and pretend things are fine or to hurt others. Its so difficult for me. I love my husband, I love my parents and I dont want to hurt them. I dont know what to do!
 

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