Date:   5/30/2007 12:13:46 PM ( 17 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=883127

I just realized that I didn't give an explaination of what prompted my responce.

The prompt was MX's fear of being arrested if his wife called the cops. This is a very real fear for many abused men. That, even though their _wives_ are the primary or sole aggressors, that they will be labled such because they are men. Even with visible injuries.

The system seems to be locked into "man-aggressor/woman-victim" and if there is a domestic disturbance, the cops often prefer to buy into lazy and/or chivalrous thinking rather then really suss out the situation.

The fact that this systemic bias exists and can be used by a female abuser against her male victim is something I find particularly upsetting. That, in combination with what I thought was an attempt to minimize men's experience of abuse, got my gander up.

But I'd much rather think that loves responce was prompted by a case of sudden awareness that men do face the same issues of abuse as women then any urge to minimize.

 

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