Date:   5/16/2007 7:21:00 AM ( 17 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=871934

"Venting" is one thing, and quite acceptable. Taking glee in deliberately causing harm, disruption, and/or angst in a tightly woven unit is quite another and defined as "abuse" in most behavioral language.

Again, if it were me, I would seek to learn why I made such harmful and damaging choices and make every effort to evolve from a furious, vengeful individual into a human being of balance, kindness, and empathy. Of course, I would only seek that path if I actually cared about the damage that I was inflicting upon other people.

***Edited*** I wanted to add: How did you expect people to respond to your description of deliberately making a choice to inflict damage (FUMES, alone, are poisonous enough to cause permanent respiratory issues) on your mother's dog and, in particular, your mother? Were you expecting respondants to give you a virtual slap on the back for a job well done? The Curezone community has a core belief that we come to this site to HEAL and evolve into WHOLE and HEALTHY human beings on an emotional and physical level and that we each will go to whatever lengths necessary to achieve those goals. You, on the other hand, were obviously expecting something completely different from being held ACCOUNTABLE for deliberately harmful actions. How, you might wonder, could your actions be "damaging" when you didn't allow gasolline to soak into the canine's flesh? You wanted to create EMOTIONAL damage and risked physical damage to, as you so eloquently stated, "...make a point."

I thoroughly and vehemently disagree with your methods of "coping" with your familial situation and find that, if your descriptions are accurate and truthful, your choices in behavior and self-management will cause you some very serious problems. Always remember: what GOES around will always come back around, no matter how well we fool ourselves into believing that our backs are being watched.

Yeppers, I'll let this thread die - you're in need of help and you still defend your behaviors. It reminds me very much of my NPD son who beat his wife of 4 months nearly to death and excused his actions as being "...in a mood."

Best of luck to you - you're going to need it.
 

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