Date:   1/28/2007 8:02:30 AM ( 17 y ago)
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I really don't want to come across as harsh, but I've been on both ends of this situation and I feel that, once trust has been shattered, it takes an Act of Congress to rebuild it, particularly when you're in your early 20's.

"...can't live without her..." is an extremely dangerous space for you to place yourself - I cannot stress this, enough. To place the reason for your continuance upon the shoulders of another human being is too much of a burden for any human being to bear, and (for MANY) too much control to hand over to another human being.

I wish I had known what I do now when I was your age. I would have dated many people without any sexual involvement, attended to my education, and found the cure for cancer. However, I spent all of my time being codependant on one person or another and did not realize that I was depending upon another human being to see to my every need until it was, indeed, too late - I made a very poor choice for a partner and wound up in a relationship that was based on domestic violence and abuse.

I would gently urge you to step back, take a look at your personal goals, take stock of what you have learned in this relationship, and walk away without anger, resentment, or bitterness. You are very young, yet, and you have another 80 years ahead of you to find a companion (IF that's where your road takes you) and develop into a strong, wise human being!

Good luck to you, honey, and just know that each and every one of us has been in the same boat as you're in, right now. This is just temporary!
 

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