Date:   1/12/2007 12:44:52 PM ( 17 y ago)
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EXCELLENT for you!!!!!!!!!!!  You are well on your way to Surviving.  I'm assuming that you have an attorney.  If not, GET one that specializes in domestic violence and abuse.  THEN, secure a counselor/therapist who also specializes in abuse. 

Two other suggestions are:

Compose in a notebook (not any technological device) your entire marital history from courtship until present.  Include every event, verbatim quotes (if you can remember them), actions, reactions, schemes, and all choices and decisions throughout that you can recall.  This is to be done with absolute objectivity - no moral judgements, no personal monologues, etc.  Include any activities that were illegal, immoral, or objectionable, even if your compliance or involvement may seem like a personal indictment - this is to  help clear the way for your emotional healing and will be a useful tool for your counselor/therapist.

Next, maintain a running log of all communications with the soon-to-be-ex, to include dates, times, EXACT quotes (by him and yourself), etc., etc., again, devoid of emotion and judgement.  This is to be copied and delivered to trusted individuals in SEALED manila <sp?> envelopes and updated weekly in the same manner.  Do not use any technological devices that could be investigated (google:  forensic computer tech) and avoid using cell phones and home phones when contacting trusted individuals.   In fact, it might be a good idea to get a P.O. Box and have all bills, important documents, etc., delivered there - I had to do that so my perpetrator wouldn't be able to go through my personal bills and mail.

Best of luck, and keep posting your progress!

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