Date:   12/20/2006 9:01:18 AM ( 19 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=795226

You are not responsible for the emotional, physical, financial, or spiritual health of any other human being. With the exception of a minor child, we can only be responsible for ourselves. More importantly, we cannot force another person to "feel" or experience emotion. That is not to say that intervention should be avoided - intervention is an action that may (or, may not) cause another person to become aware of damage that they are inflicting upon themselves and/or others through their own choices.

It seems, by your post, that you are the sole initiator within your relationship, seeking help or guidance. That your spouse is uninterested could be a symptom of being chemically dependant for over a decade. It is quite possible that he doesn't feel because he is simply unable to feel, anymore. You didn't reference his behavior or choices prior to Prozac, so there's little to go on, there. I may have missed it in your post, but was your spouse diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, or is it your belief that he is an Asperger's victim? We laypeople can really set ourselves up, sometimes, when we attempt to diagnose another human being without any testing, training, etc!

Your question about what would happen to your spouse if you left is not an uncommon one: we care, we nurture, and we accept (or, wrestle away) responsibility for everyone's happiness and success, because we were taught to do so. Again, you are not responsible for anyone else's happiness, success, emotional health, or achievements except your own.

I would recommend that you get yourself to INDIVIDUAL counseling in order to see the whole picture of your Self, determine what your personal goals might be, and begin practicing positive techniques for your Self. THEN, I would initiate a pointed discussion with my spouse to determine if he would be willing to seek alternative treatments and submit to psychiatric testing to determine if he is, indeed, suffering from an organic condition. This, for me, would have to be an ultimatum: either be proactive in your OWN treatment and recovery, or I have to make my own way without you. But, that's MY personal feeling, and not to be taken as a recommendation or suggestion!

Best of luck to you!!!


 

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