Date:   11/28/2006 6:06:28 PM ( 18 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=781827

I think men have a bit of a 'liberation' to go thru like women did a few decades ago.
For one thing, many men, espcially single men, still carry the idea that 'they are available at all times to any woman [sex partner]'. This carrys over to touching and fondling of their privates where men do not generally draw boundaries even tho they don't want to be touched.

Another thing is about sexual performance. It is still tied to mens self-esteem despite that most sex problems can be traced to medical conditions and not personality or whatever it is that affects their egos.
Circumscision, and other causes, has caused some men to have 'performance issues' like premature ejaculation or inabililty to maintain an erection until ejaculation. Still, those men will themselves look at it like they are not "real men", and find ways to blame themselves and not look for either help or compassion.

One problem that may be affecting most men but very few admit to it is that circumscisions can cause the exposed penus head to become stimulated just because it will rub against clothing and so on, which causes sexual arousal when there is really no call for it. Thesemen will be constantly, artificially aroused. Then imagine that when they are having foreplay and become fully erect, they find the head of their penus becomes painfull and they lose their erection before or just barely after sex begins. Thats a different kind of premature ejaculation.

Nobody talks about that stuff at all!!
Women may wonder what men say when the men get together without women around - well it certainly is NOT about how their psnus feels!! Thats the LAST thing they will talk about. Homophobic, too personal maybe, but the details of sex are not talked about.

To admit it even to their wife is not common. It would really help if they did tho. If the men could feel more comnfortable talking about these things they just might start to find answers.i know that I would have felt better abuot myself if I could have had a women who understood my sexual problems.

Instead of talking about it, I , like most men, will just suffer in silence, hoping it works right next time but it won't because we add to the problem by getting nervous about sexual performance. I did find that when I had a partner for a few years and sex became routine, some of these issues did resolve - and that proves that trust and compassion will help.

Now men have to learn to ask for that which they need, like compassion and even some help dealing with the various pains caused by cirsumscisions. [and then hoopefully they won't let their children get circumsized]. Here is one simple thing I could not bring myself to tell a women: "Darling, my penus tip hurts after sex, please don't touch it then ok?" Wow, is that 'un-liberated', 'repressed', or what? And that was ME - imagine how the average male would resist talking about it?

This is part of the liberation men still have to go thru.
 

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