Date:   11/27/2006 4:17:38 AM ( 18 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=780791

I have found that often in this world people are expected to "complete" another's existence....that we expect another to validate ourselves. What do YOU like to do? What does he like to do? It's obvious to me that he is doing the "right" thing...working a later shift in order to bring home more $...but that leaves him tired...and it sounds as though he really doesn't have any love for LIFE at this point.

I have found that sexual expression is tied with one's SELF perception/expression...as WELL as an expression of love for the other. If he doesn't love himself, his life, how can he sincerely express love for you?>>>>>>>>>>

Thank you! This was especially eye opening for me. As it stands, there is no time to do anything we enjoy doing because of his job. He has no time to do the things he used to enjoy before going to third shift, and I have begged him to leave it. I would rather live on lesser income and have him be happy.

I told him it is his choice to stay at this job, knowing full well the problems that it causes for him and our family. I can't force him to find something else, but at the same time I continue pointing it out to him that this shift has caused our lives to be stressed and our relationship stretched thin. He is not the same person I knew before he started this job because he is unhappy.
 

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