Date:   12/4/2004 10:32:03 AM ( 20 y ago)
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Ev,

Thank you so much for your graciousness and bravery at posting your own personal story on your new forum! It is so very wonderful when you can take an adverse situation in your own life and then turn it around so that it helps others. I believe that this has finally come full circle for you...and now others will not only receive the healing benefits, but you will as well. The most powerful and effective healers are the 'wounded' healers...those who have been through the experience themselves and have come through it with more strength and the gift of guiding others through that dark terrain. You are a healer...and a hero.

For you (and the many others) who struggle with the pain that accompanies all the anniversary dates surrounding such an ordeal...there is one way that I know of that can ease the suffering and help put the past behind you...if you so choose.

The pain results because these anniverseries are linked with painful events in your life...the physical pain of the abortion itself, and perhaps of the conception or the pregnancy...the pain of making such a difficult decision...the pain of not receiving the support that you were so in need of and deserved...the pain of the loss of a child...the pain of the unfulfilled hopes and dreams of all those future possibilities...and the pain of the guilt. It is no wonder that so many women continue to grieve each year as the dates approach...of the pregnancy, of the abortion, of the birth date...the pain is so deep!

Easing this struggle and letting go of so much pain can be done by breaking the connection between those dates and all the suffering that went with them...and replacing them with more positive associations. By creating new and positive memories that are powerfully linked to those dates...you can rewire your brain and, at the very least, neutralize some of the negative energy that went with these life events. Practically speaking...whatever the anniversery dates are that you are having diffiiculty with...make it a point to do something on those dates that will provide a very strong positive connection. For example, if you've always dreamed of the thrill of skydiving...then go skydiving on that date! If you have a passion that you've yet to express...use that date as the launching of that passion! If there is something that brings you great joy...make it a point to engage yourself in that way on that particular date!

This may be impossible for some who are still in the throws of deep grieving and not yet ready to let go of the pain. And even for those who are ready to move on...it may not necessarily be easy! But by forming new, more positive connections with those dates...you will have a different set of memories to associate with them...and these wounds will begin to heal on yet another level.

The difficulty in this is that...for many women...the pain enables them to stay energeticly connected to their unborn child and they don't want to let go of that connection any more than they already have. And many women feel that they deserve to feel that pain...that it is their penance for their decision and the actions they took. But as long as that pain still exists...their is further healing to be done. There is nothing positive in holding onto pain!

(BTW...this same strategy can be used for any type of loss and pain that is linked to a particular association...be it a date, a place or a person. Replace the painful connection with a pleasurable one...and leave the past behind you so that you can truly heal these wounds!)

Ev...you are providing a powerful and compassionate service here! I'm so very proud of you! You are a blessing!!!

With great admiration and respect,
Pam


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Ev,

Thank you so much for your graciousness and bravery at posting your own personal story on your new forum! It is so very wonderful when you can take an adverse situation in your own life and then turn it around so that it helps others. I believe that this has finally come full circle for you...and now others will not only receive the healing benefits, but you will as well. The most powerful and effective healers are the 'wounded' healers...those who have been through the experience themselves and have come through it with more strength and the gift of guiding others through that dark terrain. You are a healer...and a hero.

For you (and the many others) who struggle with the pain that accompanies all the anniversary dates surrounding such an ordeal...there is one way that I know of that can ease the suffering and help put the past behind you...if you so choose.

The pain results because these anniverseries are linked with painful events in your life...the physical pain of the abortion itself, and perhaps of the conception or the pregnancy...the pain of making such a difficult decision...the pain of not receiving the support that you were so in need of and deserved...the pain of the loss of a child...the pain of the unfulfilled hopes and dreams of all those future possibilities...and the pain of the guilt. It is no wonder that so many women continue to grieve each year as the dates approach...of the pregnancy, of the abortion, of the birth date...the pain is so deep!

Easing this struggle and letting go of so much pain can be done by breaking the connection between those dates and all the suffering that went with them...and replacing them with more positive associations. By creating new and positive memories that are powerfully linked to those dates...you can rewire your brain and, at the very least, neutralize some of the negative energy that went with these life events. Practically speaking...whatever the anniversery dates are that you are having diffiiculty with...make it a point to do something on those dates that will provide a very strong positive connection. For example, if you've always dreamed of the thrill of skydiving...then go skydiving on that date! If you have a passion that you've yet to express...use that date as the launching of that passion! If there is something that brings you great joy...make it a point to engage yourself in that way on that particular date!

This may be impossible for some who are still in the throws of deep grieving and not yet ready to let go of the pain. And even for those who are ready to move on...it may not necessarily be easy! But by forming new, more positive connections with those dates...you will have a different set of memories to associate with them...and these wounds will begin to heal on yet another level.

The difficulty in this is that...for many women...the pain enables them to stay energeticly connected to their unborn child and they don't want to let go of that connection any more than they already have. And many women feel that they deserve to feel that pain...that it is their penance for their decision and the actions they took. But as long as that pain still exists...their is further healing to be done. There is nothing positive in holding onto pain!

(BTW...this same strategy can be used for any type of loss and pain that is linked to a particular association...be it a date, a place or a person. Replace the painful connection with a pleasurable one...and leave the past behind you so that you can truly heal these wounds!)

Ev...you are providing a powerful and compassionate service here! I'm so very proud of you!!!

With great admiration and respect,
Pam



 

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