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Re: crack & alcohol addicted boyfriend who I called police on - I still love him and can't seem to let go by #40885 ..... Codependency & Addictive Relationships & Love Addiction

Date:   8/21/2005 10:37:39 PM ( 19 y ago)
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URL:   https://www.curezone.org/forums/fm.asp?i=669156

Hi, this is my 1st visit to curezone in months I'm not sure if I ever replyed back to you. A big thank you to you for your helpful and careing reply. Today I wrote a new posting asking for advice about my new boyfriend I met in March. Well my relationship with no-good (crack addict) boyfriend finally ended toward the end of Feb. and I met a new guy just waiting on the city bus toward the end of March My new boyfriend is the complete - I mean complete opposite to my old no-good crack addict alcoholic boyfriend. I love everything about him except there's just one thing that really depresses me and bothers me. He took me out on just a few dates in the very beginning. After that we went to some free outside concerts. His last month for his University internship job was in May. So he has no job right now (temporarily anyways) Yet he saved plenty of money the past 5+ years. He is a foreigner from a country near Russia. He won't even take me out for a cup of coffee. I asked him this past Sat night (like I've asked many times before - he always says "no") if he could just spend $5 so we could go out for a couple drinks. I suggested that he could just buy me 2 beers and he always just drinks soda. well I unsurprisingly got the no for an answer again. He doesn't drink any alcohol. Both his father and his brother were alcoholics. His brother is still an alcoholic. I've no problem drinking - I rarely drink but like a couple beers - 3 beers tops on occasion I'm helping him job search and he's going to take me with him when he leaves here to go to the job. He's about ready to get his Phd. I help him with his Phd project - have sit with him many hours while he writes plus I'm helping him extensively on job search. but it really hurts me that he won't even take me out on a date and just spend a little money on me (on both of us) the thing is he can well afford it so you got anymore good advice for me this time around I could sure use it. Thanks
 

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